Further to wearing shoes indoors...

I suppose same could be said of dogs feet. I still wash them every time they come inside, no desire for them to bring in germs.

Would you expect an elderly person with painful joints to remove their shoes in your house? I'd think it the height of rudeness and complete lack of empathy.

I think it is a bit of a generational (and cultural) thing. As a child I often went around in bare feet at home, but my mother used to scold me as she said I might step on something sharp (she did a lot of sewing so it was likely there were pins or needles on the floor occasionally). It seemed to be expected to wear shoes or slippers indoors, not socks or bare feet. I never remember being asked to remove shoes in friends' houses. When my own children were growing up, I can only remember one house where removal of shoes was requested - they had white carpets and an only child!

The one request about footwear that was sometimes made by people with good parquet floors was "no stiletto heels".

Blondiescot

*Luckygirl3*, I understand that it can be more difficult for some people than others, and I'm not having a go here, just genuinely curious - what would you do if you went to someone else's house and they had a 'no shoes indoors' rule?

Well - they would have to take them off for me! - and put them back on. But in 74 years of existence I have never been to a house where someone asked me to remove my shoes!

Farmor15 The one request about footwear that was sometimes made by people with good parquet floors was "no stiletto heels".

Yes. Nobody wants wood damage.

I'm cautious not wearing heels in other's homes.

Aveline

Would you expect an elderly person with painful joints to remove their shoes in your house? I'd think it the height of rudeness and complete lack of empathy.

Well my in-laws are 91 and 96 and although they are both in a care home now, up until last year, if they were visiting our house (or anyone else's, for that matter), they'd automatically take off their shoes and put their slippers on without even being asked. They'd expect visitors to their house to do the same. My MiL wouldn't even let workmen in the house unless they took their shoes off first.

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Chucks are easy peasy!
Lovely colours, cute patterns, great arch support.

Blondiescot

*Luckygirl3*, I understand that it can be more difficult for some people than others, and I'm not having a go here, just genuinely curious - what would you do if you went to someone else's house and they had a 'no shoes indoors' rule?

Not visit, just chat on the doorstep. That’s easy. Fortunately none of my friends and acquaintances would expect me to do that. I guess I wouldn’t be welcome at several GN’s houses.

Norah - they look great - how would I do up the laces??!!

Mollygo and Luckygirl3 you are both welcome to visit me. No need to change your shoes or hang about on the doorstep.

Aveline

Mollygo and Luckygirl3 you are both welcome to visit me. No need to change your shoes or hang about on the doorstep.

Thanks. 😁

Luckygirl3

Norah - they look great - how would I do up the laces??!!

Stretch laces, always done up.

That's what I do. Amazon.

Aveline

Mollygo and Luckygirl3 you are both welcome to visit me. No need to change your shoes or hang about on the doorstep.

Can I come too, please?

Although I could bring my indoor trainers!!

Norah

Luckygirl3

Norah - they look great - how would I do up the laces??!!

Stretch laces, always done up.

That's what I do. Amazon.

But how do you tighten them up to be firm and supportive?

I can see the podiatrist shaking her head already 😁

Of course you're welcome Callistemon no need for additional footwear.

Mollygo

Blondiescot

Luckygirl3, I understand that it can be more difficult for some people than others, and I'm not having a go here, just genuinely curious - what would you do if you went to someone else's house and they had a 'no shoes indoors' rule?

Not visit, just chat on the doorstep. That’s easy. Fortunately none of my friends and acquaintances would expect me to do that. I guess I wouldn’t be welcome at several GN’s houses.

Fortunately my family and friends would automatically take their shoes off when they arrived at my house, as would I at theirs.

Thank you Aveline
I can bring 🥂🍾, not 🍷 in case I spill it 😲

Aveline

Mollygo and Luckygirl3 you are both welcome to visit me. No need to change your shoes or hang about on the doorstep.

Put the kettle on - I'm on my way!

May I just ask of all those who expect guests, friends or family to remove their shoes, how do you treat/ will you treat in the future, those unable to bend, or unsteady on their feet or unable to remove shoes or put on slippers whilst standing?
We’re lucky. We have a vestibule with a seat for removing our hiking boots, which could be used by any guests wishful of removing their shoes.
Do you all have an area like that, or do your visitors have to struggle outside the door, before they’re allowed in?
What do you do if you don’t have an entrance like that?

Well Mollygo, if you'd read my earlier comment, you'd have seen how my very elderly and rather frail in-laws managed when they came to visit us. They would simply take off their outdoor footwear in our vestibule (unprompted by us, I hasten to add) then come into the living room, sit down and put on their slippers. I'd be more than happy to make any necessary allowances for anyone who was struggling in any way.

Oh well as long as your carpets were all right that's fine. 😑

Wow, sarcastic much, Aveline? I did point out that was their choice - and they would do the same no matter whose house they were visiting. To them, it was just a case of good manners.

BS I’m glad your olds manage.
My mum struggles to get up steps and my Dad was an amputee, so at our old house, (no vestibule) it’s just as well I’d let them in with shoes on.

I would never ask anyone to take their shoes off before entering our home. Nor have I ever been asked to remove my own when visiting.
Goodness, would you ask dinner guests to remove their shoes if wearing certain shoes to complement their outfit?
I can only imagine the look from friends and family if this was a prerequisite to visit us!

In our area it is the done thing to ask when you visit someone, ‘Shoes off?’. They can then say yes or no. In my experience most say yes, and anyone going for a long stay takes slippers. One lady I know who had difficulty removing her shoes takes reusable over shoes.