My DH and I are responsible for our 2 GC, 7 and 5 for a few hours 2 days\week. They are an absolute delight when they are with us, very well behaved and of course happy. They play together mostly nicely and have the run of the house and I never complain. Like all children they occasionally have their little 'strop' but that is acceptable and perfectly normal but it is dealt with nicely but forcibly and they both accept the consequences of bad behaviour. As soon as they go back to their parents they change totally, not very well behaved, shouting and general kicking off. I accept they are back in their own home and whilst their behaviour concerns me I also know it's none of our business. What does annoy/upset me is that when all six of us are together their behaviour towards me and DH in my opinion is unacceptable. i.e. rude, not speaking when spoken too, cheeky etc something we generally do not encounter when it's just the four of us. I rely on their parents of course to take charge of this sort of situation but they don't. We then just have to accept this bad behaviour without any support or indeed apologies. I think as loving grandparents who are devoted to our CG and of course the rest of the family deserve a little more respect and support from their parents in situations like this. It truly upsets me as I feel so hurt and inconsequential. I just really don't know what to do and obviously don't want to cause upset to any of them but I also don't want to be treated this way. Do I just allow them all to behave like this and bite my tongue?
