Rude grandson

We are not doctors to diagnose anything to anybody or explain why people act that way

What jumps out to me that of there's a diagnosis, the OP is not aware of it at all.

M0nica, I tend to agree there are shades of colors or shades of grey - what have you. Must be true, people react differently.

I've ADD (not autism), but as I'm elderly there was no diagnosis when I was a child. Didn't matter one bit, I knew. Sweet nuns knew, they told me to 'pay attention, concentrate' (whilst not warning other children).

No one has diagnosed this child with anything Hithere, but one or two people have suggested it as a possible reason for his behaviour.

We all of us automatically try to make sense of the behaviour of people around us, if someone is crying we may think they may be sad, or been peeling onions and adapt our approach and language accordingly.

If we did not have this skill we would never have learnt how to recognise when an animal is eyeing us up for tea, or is resting after eating and is safe to walk by!

Hithere

We are not doctors to diagnose anything to anybody or explain why people act that way

What jumps out to me that of there's a diagnosis, the OP is not aware of it at all.

Have you trued getting a medical diagnosis in recent times? It can literally take years, and even then it can depend on a child's cooperation in less severe cases.

Oldnproud

Hithere

We are not doctors to diagnose anything to anybody or explain why people act that way

What jumps out to me that of there's a diagnosis, the OP is not aware of it at all.

Have you trued getting a medical diagnosis in recent times? It can literally take years, and even then it can depend on a child's cooperation in less severe cases.

I was not diagnosed, I knew, the nuns knew. I've done well, perhaps not to others standards but I'm well pleased with my life.

One daughter was not diagnosed (albeit 50 yrs ago). Twenty years later her sister was diagnosed. I'm not sure it made any difference to their education or lives. We weren't going the prescribed drug route that others use for studying.

I have found that knowing that I have ADHD and dyspraxia means I have a greater understanding of myself and that makes it easier for me to find ways of managing the problem. It also enabled me to be at peace with myself to know why I have specific problems.

It is trivial things like knowing why I struggle to use a mobile phone. It is not the technology, nor am I unused to using electronic equipment but mobile phones require you to have fine motor control over how you touch small keys. Fine motor control is my problem. I hit the wrong keys, use the wrong pressure and because I am bad at sequencing. My mind says enter '123'. My fingers enter 213. This is one area where understanding the problem has helped me deal with it, but texting takes me hours because I have to do it much more slowly than other people - with constant correction.

I watch other peopls fingers dancing round the keypad with awe, but I now no longer try to do the same myself because I know why I will never be able to do it.

some phones, you can speak what you want and it turns it into a text message.
might be easier. maybe.

The Tensor processor that powers the Google Pixel 6 and Pixel 6 Pro opens up a world of new features to anyone using Google's latest phones. But perhaps none is more impressive than Assistant Voice Typing, which lets you dictate messages and emails instead of painstakingly tapping them out via an on-screen keyboard.8 Nov 2021.

sorry, hope i won't be deleted for being an advert.
just copied something about the function.

Welbeck A useful hint, but I am not someone who needs or wants to be constantly texting people. Most of the time I do not know where my phone is and do not hear it when it rings. I have a computer and communicate by emails from there and our landline ring can be heard all round the house.

It’s possible your grandson may remain distant and uncommunicative, or he may improve as he becomes an adult. However if you behave as you feel tempted to, taking offence, wanting to make a point back to him, you are just making the situation worse aren’t you?
Of course you shouldn’t spend more than you can afford but why wouldn’t you continue your efforts to keep communication open and continue to show you are a gran who thinks of him and sends gifts etc on birthdays etc and wishes him well?

M0nica

Oddone Please stop misunderstanding me. I am not referring to autism as one shade of grey, I am using the phrase in the generally accepted meaning that something does not have a cut off point as it goes from black to white but fades from one to the other through shades of grey

I am sorry to move so quickly to dictionary definitions, but here it is

^This phrase actually originated from a popular saying which “things are not black or white”. When something is said to be in black and white, it is distinctly referring to a clear choice such as yes or no, left or right. When this is not clearly defined, then it is said to be in a grey area just because the color grey is between black of white. So when a situation is not clear as black and white, it was then said to be various shades of grey.
www.theidioms.com/shades-of-grey/ and other sites.

I do understand what that idiom means. I do understand idioms, as a general rule, unlike many on the spectrum. But thank you for the "lesson".