Manners and saying thank you

No , you are not being unreasonable. However I think it’s best to go with the mindset of don’t expect anything from anyone. No expectations makes an easier life .

Manners were so important when I was younger, and lack of them used to bother me. But I've come to expect now that times have changed and just accept that a text or WhatsApp is fine.
I do it myself too these days. It's easier.

From time to time my nephew might mention that he intends to buy a widget when he has the money. I would just send him a financial contribution and allow him to buy what he wants when he is ready. I know I am very difficult to buy for.

My grandmother was very strict about the nicities of saying "please" and "thank you" but unfortunately those days are gone. An email or text is sufficient.

A thank you is a thank you from wherever it comes from.

WhatsApp is replacing many other communication methods. We may or may not like it but its fact. Its the thankyou that matters not the method!!

A WhatsApp, Messenger or txt would be fine for me too.

A WhatsApp thankyou would be enough for me .

Be thankful you at least got a WhatsApp thank you.

Kim19 I agree.

This thank you (or lack of) grievance comes up repeatedly on GN. Is there anything wrong with giving unreservedly and neither expecting or hoping for any sort of thanks whatsoever? What has happened to the joy of giving? Sure, thanks is nice but not even remotely to be expected. I get a lot of pleasure from the very selection of a gift and that's enough for me. Times change. I remember the misery of sitting writing thank you letters as a child. At least that's pretty much gone thank goodness.

I think a WhatsApp is fine. You can get everything written down then and everything you want to say.

I absolutely hate talking on the phone. I send thank you WhatsApps to friends and family for birthdays etc and they do it back. It's easier and quicker but the same level of thanks and appreciation is still in them.

I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all.

Manners cost nothing.

I would be fine with a WhatsApp thank you.

Younger people rarely use the phone preferring to text or WhatsApp. I agree with your husband.

If I had bought something for my grandchild I would not expect a thank you from the parent, it would simply be a gift for the child.

The child is nearly four

Yes she did say what type of clothes were needed and that eBay was fine. I don’t think you could get much for £100 if buying new. I must stress that the money is not the issues, I just think a quick telephone thank you is not unreasonable.

It's not clear whether these clothes were bought after consulting with your daughter, or how old your granddaughter is.

Whilst very kind of you to buy the clothes I would always consult the mother/daughter as to what would be most useful and (especially if the child is over 8) whether they like that style.

I guess a whatsapp thankyou is sufficient, but hopefully next time you speak she would add to it.

Yes you deserve a thank you .........
however although I don't doubt your very kind intentions it may have been wise to ask if she liked what you were intending to buy, or perhaps given her the £100 so she could make her own choices.I do occasionally buy for my GC if I see a bargain while out shopping, but if I were spending £100+ I would definitely ask my DD first. Just a thought 🤔