Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.

While there are many things that annoy me, there are not too many that actually cause stress.

The years of waiting awake for teenagers to come home is over for me know that they are all adults, so for the most part I don't have too many stress points.

Highway driving in snowy conditions of course, but for the most part that can be avoided. We rarely leave town in winter. The next town is 140 km away, but we have no need to go there.

When the computer does its own thing !!!

Catering for other people, I can cope with my DD and her family (just) but I am finding more stressful than I used to, I think one of the reasons is we moved a few years ago and this kitchen is very small compared to my old house, great for 2 but not for more . limited worktop space to put things on.

Flashing fairy lights drive me mad! Don't mind the slow fading function but our tree lights are static !

I’m like you aggie I get very stressed with phone calls and knocks at the door in case it’s bad news. I also stress about packing for going away. I seem to have developed a need for having all my own things around me and I have so many lists - also sorting out the house before I go. Never used to bother me at all.

I can't bear flashing lights, they make me feel really anxious and like LindaPat I go around each time they are switched on pressing for number 5, or 7 or whatever.
In a restaurant I have often asked for music volume turned out without any issue.
I don't like driving at night either and used to tackle anything.

I'm just the opposite ! Filling in stuff online. Everything seems to move too quickly. Every site seems to have a different method of navigating through the pages. I'm always terrified of mucking things up and the situation being then irretrievable, particularly if it's important.also I'm afraid that any mistake of mine might set a number of digital hares up and running with God knows what consequences.
Paper Forms ? Plenty of time to consider and source advice.No problem. One man's meat..........

Noise (music, talking, tv) - I don't like distractions.

Greyisnotmycolour

Driving anywhere and not knowing where I'm going to park. I just dread it. I have satnav and a parking camera so all I need to keep it simple but it ties me in knots. Also driving at night but I'll only do that now if it's absolutely necessary.

This is 100% me greyisnotmycolour. I don`t drive at night these days, by choice and I get very anxious if I am unsure about the parking. I can park correctly but there is an anxiety in case there are no spaces and if there is parking at all

LindaPat

Re the flashing Christmas lights - if only the manufacturers would make "steady" the first option , instead of number 7, we would be ok!.
My DH tries to make everything as simple as possible for us, so all our lights , inside and out, are connected to something on his phone, and they all come on/go off together. Great - except we still have to go around and press the button 7 times on each transformer to get them onto the steady mode. Otherwise the house looks like a spaceship!

Oh how I agree! Every time I switch on our tree lights, I have to go through the whole sequence for ‘steady on’. I can’t bear flashing lights!
I’m sure anyone who made a set with ‘steady on’ first - or, even better, the only option - would sell masses.

Greyisnotmycolour

Driving anywhere and not knowing where I'm going to park. I just dread it. I have satnav and a parking camera so all I need to keep it simple but it ties me in knots. Also driving at night but I'll only do that now if it's absolutely necessary.

Absolutely my most stressful experience especially in multi storey car parks with lots of concrete pillars and narrow spaces!
Not to mention the hassle of paying by phone when eventually one finds a space.
Glad I am not the only one who gets anxious about this!

Parking or not finding a space or not knowing how to pay- not enough coins or needs an app.
Putting air in tyres.
Noisy places.
Eating out alone in the evening when away.

Indoor fountains. Fortunately they have gone out of fashion now, but the sound of running water makes me want to scream. It is supposed to be calming and relaxing but I don't see how.

Oh, and talking of calming and relaxing: that doodle music you get in spas that never goes anywhere.

Radio one in my dentists waiting area was driving me to distraction the other day, rapping type music if you can call it that. When I complained to the dentist she said “it’s difficult to please everyone”. So don’t have it on at all I thought but didn’t say out loud. Next time I will.

Gift wrapping paper. Both M&S and Next, (other shops are available),are guilty of the bizarre habit of putting 3 or 4 sticky labels on the roll which then has to be removed.

Why? What good does it do? All that happens is loss of a few centimetres of paper because ìt tears. I believe one can peel the labels off if intense care is being taken.

I've not managed it yet

Yes to the wrapping paper sticky labels !This seems to be a recent thing and so frustrating as impossible to peel off cleanly.
And also driving on Motorways has lately made me stressed to the point I feel I shouldn't be using them.Difficult to avoid as I go to our DDs regularly and need to go on one of the busiest -mercifully only for a short stretch. I really think I've been a competent driver but have had seen such aggressive driving lately that it's eroding my confidence.

you say no one else complained
Did you complain?

Bella23

I hate being late or others being late. I can't give direct instructions to adults I make open suggestions.

This made me laugh, Bella, because it reminded me of when MrB and I were sailing in our Wayfarer dinghy. MrB was helming and said "You might like to tighten the jib". I looked at the jib and thought "Looks fine to me" and left it. MrB was really puzzled 😂.

Car parks stress me out (not just multi storey ones either)!

Nice, normal people who normally drive courtesly and carefully seem to lose all sense in a car park - no giving way, indicating, etc. 😡
And as for pedestrians - they seem to wander around oblivious to the fact that there's moving vehicles all around them and especially behind them 😳!

Very large retail outlets with even larger car parks. I'd need a map to get round certain vast supermarkets. The car park of the store I'm thinking of are un-numbered and I find it difficult to get my bearings. If you see a white haired old woman looking for her little white Kia, be kind to me!

Dogs!
Dogs on long leads wandering with a moron staring at a ‘phone on the other end.
Dogs leaping out at you and the owner saying “it won’t touch you. When it has , and you’re terrified!

Loud ''music'' in cafe's and restaurants and shops, if it's loud enough where I can't hear what my hubby is saying then I won't go in! I'm also partly deaf so the noise puts out my natural ear gyro system.

Interesting how many people find loud music in restaurants etc stressful- as I posted a few months ago about a 70th birthday celebration being ruined by a DJ and many people sympathised. I belong to an organisation called Pipedown which campaigns for public areas like hospitals and hotels to be free of Muzak.( only last night I had to visit my DD who is in hospital with a horrible acute ear infection - several televisions on and the noise was unbearable) I always ask, politely, for music to be turned down in restaurants, response is mixed, one coffee shop owner said “ No, it’s our vibe” ( well he lost my custom !) but most oblige . I agree with those saying how tiring and stressful it is to try and join in conversations when you can barely hear what others are saying.

kircubbin2000

I asked for it to be turned down in an hotel but was told no as the owner liked it.

We stayed in a hotel were the music on the dining room at breakfast was Shirley Bassey and Tom Jones..the music was so fast that people were eating to keep up with the singing..