Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.

I don't like flashing Christmas lights either, in fact, two Christmas's ago I refused to have the tree up at all as I wasn't 'in a good place'.
Having to walk over tramlines when crossing the roads in the city really stresses me too, along with walking along a pier and seeing the water below through the gaps in the timber.

I’m sorry to read that maddyone that must be so upsetting for you.

Getting up from sitting down on a chair.I went to a concert at GD2’s school on Tuesday. We had to sit on those fairly small school chairs and I spent much of the time worrying if I would be able to get up again. I did so rather inelegantly and with some difficulty.😊

I had forgotten the gaps in the timber planks on a pier!!
I also surprised myself reading my earlier answer about putting air in tyres. Thank you Kim 19 for your suggestion.

Here's a silly one. A neighbour has a fatsia shrub next to the pavement. It has very large leaves which tend to die off one by one and look brown and withered. I find it very frustrating when these eyesores are left to accumulate and I can't do anything about it without offending.

For those anxious about driving skills - can I suggest having a driving lesson? I got worried about negotiating roundabouts after being hooted at by another driver. The instructor was brilliant (once he got over the shock of someone with a clean licence requesting a lesson). He confirmed I was doing everything right (phew) and pointed out the odd thing I could improve on - using my near side wing mirror was one - I had to tell him when I started driving near side wing mirrors were not obligatory! It was a huge confidence boost - it is very odd that anyone doing a sport etc goes on having lessons for ever but once people pass their driving test that's it. Maybe we should all invest in an annual lesson.

Having to drive to unknown places. Struggling with parking apps.

I really enjoy going to cafes in the little town in which I live , but I hate the sound of the coffee machine and the radio in the one that serves the best food .
Two of my friends can't even enter this cafe .
Other friends seem to enjoy the buzz .
Visiting people who leave their TV on at full volume .
Friends , who have blaring radios on and shout over the top in their cars .
I think that one friend can't stand the sound of silence .

I also find people swearing and losing their tempers really frightening on the bus .
On a couple of occasions , the drivers have locked the doors and called the Police .
Last time , the offender was swearing at and spitting on us hoping we'd get Covid .

Our neighbour opposite has flashing lights set up on 1st December and earlier each year despite being politely requested as both my neighbour and I suffer from migraine .
Her migraine is more serious and frequent than mine and she finds it hard to use a computer at work when she has an attack .
People who ring the doorbell and immediately walk away .
I've found that this is frequent with Friday night charity collectors .
I have stopped answering the door unless I'm expecting a parcel .
Friends can message me first .

I hate filling in forms. My friend used to always say to fill in one page at a time and not worry about the whole picture and I try and do that.

kircubbin2000

For example,we usually meet at a local cafe 5 minutes from home. This morning one lady changed the venue to a trendy cafe in town meaning having to drive and park.
The noise was unbearable both from the coffee machines and the acoustics.Service was poor and the coffee was cold. We couldn't hear each other over the noise and I felt so relieved to get home. No one else complained.

That is totally me! i hate the clashing and banging of the staff who use these coffee machines. I know they have to knock out the coffee grounds but I swear some staff just wait until you are all relaxed and give it a good old BANG!! not relaxing atmosphere at all.

kircubbin2000

I asked for it to be turned down in an hotel but was told no as the owner liked it.

Wasn’t at Lulworth Cove was it?😂

Kittycat, I know EXACTLY what you're saying!

I'm physically disabled too and have a RADAR key but whenever I go somewhere new I HAVE to find out where loo's are before I do anything, just in case!

Sometimes they're upstairs and there's no lift or escalator and stair climbing is very awkward for me!

I'm disabled and use a 4-wheeled seated Rollator outside and it really stresses me out and makes me fume, when I'm having to back into a shop doorway, push my back against the door, which has a long metal hard bar across it so it hurts my already damaged back, then PUSH in hard as the door is heavy and stiff, I'm really pushing hard backwards while trying to pull my Rollator and keep the door open at the same time and able-bodied people outside can see I'm struggling but instead of hanging on for just a few seconds before trying to enter, they literally just barge past me, knocking the Rollator from my hands and sending it wheeling then storm into the shop as if I'm invisible.

One of the women who works at our local Spar is a sod for that, and her kid, they've done it to me twice so far. I feel like ramming my Rollator into their legs ... hard ... and barking at them to bloody well wait for a few seconds!

spuddy that is very mean. Several shops around here have signs saying that if you have trouble entering or leaving please ring the bell.

Spuddy - some people are really VILE .
It's obvious that I have trouble walking and there's been a couple of guys on the bus , who refuse to move across so I can sit down .
My neighbour with the flashing lights ignores me in the supermarket and knows that I struggle home with my shopping .
He and his wife both have cars .
My poor father once asked them to get him some basic shopping and they made him feel like a leper .
At the moment , they babysit their granddaughters for their sons , who live miles away .
I wonder if these sons will help them out in the future .

Timetables, I have diagnosed myself as having dyscalculia and anything with numbers bothers me, also money matters etc. I fret over how much to tip and splitting bills. I stare at my diary when having to arrange dates…

Passwords. Even correct passwords get refused. Why?
Tiny writing on instructions when I have to get a magnifying glass to read them.

LisaAN

People chewing with their mouth open. I have been known to leave my seat and stand somewhere else on a crowded train for the duration of the journey if the person in a seat near me was chewing loudly. No idea why it does, but it doesn’t just annoy me, it really causes me stress.

This is a known thing that quite a few people have. It's called Misophonia. I can't bear it either. I have to remove myself.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Thank you for your kind words Juliet.

Husbands!!!

I too hate loud background music in cafes and bars although I rarely visit such places nowadays.

I hate anything which interrupts my routine. For example being ambushed in the garden by some neighbour or salesperson when I only went out to drop something in the bin. Now I make a point of only going out there after dark unless Im doing a photo shoot.

I was out there doing a shoot this morning and I heard a car drive up and someone shouting "ello luv" and completely ignored them as my back was turned to the fence. After two attempts to attract my attention they got back in the car and drove off.

Having had a career that most people would find hugely stressful, I thrived on it. Until it coincided two years ago with Covid and me having to care for my dying mother and other relatives with major health problems. Subsequently I experienced my first bout of amnesia and my confidence (and health) drained away, so that I found most ordinary activities stressful.

I’ve recently had my fifth episode of amnesia and I’m managing them better now, but I am always conscious that it could happen at any time, and yes, I do find that very stressful even though I have a medic-alert bracelet with instructions for if I'm found in a state of confusion.

I get very stressed by people cycling on pavements. I don't hear them coming up behind me,they don't ring a bell but will shout at the last minute or swerve past me. My balance isn't good and I have fallen into a hedge when this happened once. The cyclist didn't even stop.

Loud music when I'm trying to shop.
I'm sure the shopping centre here play "the greatest drum 'n' bass hits" album.