Children moving back in?

I could never have gone back to live with my parents and lived under their rules. I need privacy like others need food water and air. In the same way I would never allow anyone to live with me for more than a few days no matter how desperate they were.

I once had an aquaintance turn up at my door with a small child and a suitcase. She had been getting on badly with her partner and I had no intention of being drawn in. Fortunately I had one of those spy holes and never answered the door. She hung around for about half an hour and then went away. I knew she had other options such as friends and family.

Juicylucy

I’m of the mindset that your adult children always have a home whilst you’re alive for as long as they need. I’d never need to have a conversation for how long that would be.

We feel exactly the same.

Oopsadaisy1

Ours know that they always have somewhere to go, no matter for how long, when they need to.

Mine too. And only two days ago my parents told me that/us that if our house move goes awry for a while we can live with them. I'm very lucky from all sides.

I am always open to the possibility that there might be occasions when I might not be willing to let my children come home.There are times when the greatest love is shown by saying 'no'. What would you do if the child wanting to come home was violent or abusive, verbally or physically, or had been in the recent past?

My children have moved in and out for short periods, never more than a few months. The last time was some years ago when DD lived with us when she completed on the sale of a flat several months before she completed on her own purchase. B

Both children are now in their 50s and I cannot see a circumstance arising now when I would not be happy to provide a roof over their heads, but one should never, say never.