DH habits

Our clocks are reasonably well matched, although I tend to go to bed first while DH catches up with overseas news or whatever. We have a relaxing start most days, breakfast an wordle and I relish it after years of commuting/getting children rounded up for school. Having run my own small business for a few years, I still celebrate the lack of texts from staff saying they are ill/car won't start etc., all necessitating me having to reschedule the working day. I love my mornings, just pottering.

He is an adult and can do as he likes, leave the man alone.

If it annoys you then go out or sleep in another room.

This is making me laugh. I get up 6.45 and make the tea and a coffee for DH which he later reheats in the microwave. I put washing on ,take pills and unpack the top layer of the dishwasher( bad back). Alarm goes at 7.30 by which time I’m back in bed with the newspaper online in the spare room. DH turns off alarm and goes back to sleep. This morning I really couldn’t wake up and I’m struggling with the time change. We alternate owlness and larkness

Callistemon21

Ps I'm bright and annoyingly breezy at 11pm!

Me too.
And at 1 or 2 am!

Another night owl here Yup, i am that annoying person at midnight, happily bouncing around.

My other half is a lark, 'coffee's ready' he will call at the weekends....if i don't appear he has learnt to leave me alone Similarly i do not gripe when he is ready for bed at 11pm.

At weekends, if i don't appear, my other half takes the dog, has breakfast and generally potters, leaving me to have a leisurely shower etc.

So, yes, i think you are being unreasonable. He's retired and his body clock will adjust to it's normal (for him) rhythm. Unless of course he is sleeping loads, fatigued etc in which case a GP visit would be on the cards.

I wake up between 7 and 8 but get up much later, when I’ve watched the news and wasted time messed about for a bit on Gransnet. I get up early if I need to, but I enjoy relaxing in bed, drinking coffee and reading, or having a conversation with my daughter in NZ, because it’s her evening in our morning.
Mr M is an early riser, normally up by 6.30 to 7. That’s his affair, so long as he doesn’t expect me to join him. So leave your husband in bed and get on with whatever you feel like doing.

Why do so many early risers feel the need to convert other members of their households to their view?

It is not more virtuous to get up early or to go to bed early for that matter.

It happens to suit you - fine.

It does not happen to suit your husband - fine.

Unless your husband has a specific job to do that means he has to get up early, then he should be free to get up when he pleases now that he is retired.

You may be a 'couple' but each of us is an individual in our own right, and I don't believe you should be dictating his activity level or what time he starts his day.

Spot on grandtanteJE65 my husband is a late riser but will get up earlier if we are going out. I take the dogs out early then have an hour with breakfast and catching up with messages etc. He takes the dogs out in the afternoon and last thing at night.
I enjoy the time on my own before starting on the daily round. We are both happy with the status quo.

Jaxjacky Tu

Yes, Jaxjacky Tu, I have & if you remember that you’ll also remember that it was the same thing & despite what every other gransnetter say’s it is highly annoying …!!!!
He doesn’t keep late nights in fact he is the one to say “ it’s late’

Stansgran
I’ll happily take your 😹 It made me smile & as a rule of thumb , that is exactly what my getting up earlier consists of .
I get up , not always between those exact times either but that is the earliest I’ll wake as a rule of thumb ,
I’ll empty dishwasher , have general tidy put washing in machine . Then I’ll make Coffee, take it up stairs . Where I’ll either go back with mine & do as you& others have said read, catch up on messages do some messages in bed together watch breakfast TV in winter especially “ Morning Live “ is a good watch or I just get up & get on with my day .

DH will still be snoring away & no matter what the time is it’ always say 10 more minutes .
Maybe I need another job .

Dogmum2
TBH he has recently as in last week retired . But has been semi restored for 6/7 years .
As far as I am concerned you are a long time dead .

You are joking, aren’t you 🤷‍♀️

You’re on a roll today, aren’t you. Is there anything/ anybody who makes you happy, probably not. 😩

I wish I could sleep in longer like your husband. I usually wake too early and can’t get back to sleep, so I envy those who can. But each to their own. Let him sleep.

But has been semi restored
Oh, we all need a semi-restored, or better still fully restored, man!

Actually, mustn't grumble, he just vacuumed all through upstairs. And brings me a cup of tea every morning.

Callistemon21

I see you need to criticise every single error . TIA , I’ll leave you to your critiquing .

Retired became restored , a typical typo nothing to make fun of .

If Callistemon hadn’t commented on ‘restored’ I would have done. No malice there - it was amusing.

petra Tue 02-Apr-24 12:36:38
You are joking, aren’t you 🤷‍♀️
petra Tue 02-Apr-24 12:40:39
You’re on a roll today, aren’t you. Is there anything/ anybody who makes you happy, probably not. 😩

I am perfectly happy , thank you . However like most people things sometimes irritate and my DH staying in bed is one . I will be taking on board the fact that it is my problem not his , as wholeheartedly pointed out in all these responses .

NanaTuesday

Callistemon21

I see you need to criticise every single error . TIA , I’ll leave you to your critiquing .

Retired became restored , a typical typo nothing to make fun of .

It was funny, though, you have to admit!! 😂
My imagination was running riot.

I'll admit to making typos myself, but they're boring ones. 😁

There are for worse habits that your DH could HAVE.

Callistemon21

^But has been semi restored^
Oh, we all need a semi-restored, or better still fully restored, man!

Actually, mustn't grumble, he just vacuumed all through upstairs. And brings me a cup of tea every morning.

😁

Ahh NanaTuesday as the young would say ‘lighten up’
I m an early riser and often awake from 4am I don’t have a husband to worry about but if I stay anywhere I m aware I need to stay still and quiet until the rest of the house is on the move so I would read or play games on my iPad
If I was in your shoes I d get up and happily leave my husband asleep for as long as he wants, as long as we didn’t have anything planned for the day and I d just quietly goes on with what I wanted
He’s no right to be annoyed at your lark like activities and
you ve no right to be annoyed with his later sleeping habits
You re really way too hung up on this, why does it matter ??

🙏

BlueBelle

I have no idea ‘ why ‘ it bothers me . Maybe I feel that we could sit & chat in the mornings before we get on with our day . Obviously , not as soon as I wake as we have been married for long enough that I know his habit of not being n early riser .