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NanaTuesday Tue 02-Apr-24 09:27:02

My DH like others of yours I imagine , has annoying habits .
But ,
his biggest is that he “ never” gets up early in the mornings !
It doesn’t matter if it is a weekday, holiday, workday 
it’s always the same .
I wake up early most mornings , I’ll make us both a drink & I may bring mine back to bed or I’ll stay up .When I say early , it could be anytime between 6:00 - 7:am of course I wouldn’t make him a drink at that time but I will get up put washing on etc & maybe bring my own drink upstairs .
Obvs in the dark days of winter it’s nice to stay a while cosied up,in bed TV news on & cuddles with the dogs . But not every day is winter & I am getting at the end of my wits now as he has recently retired ( age 68 ,he was working 3 days a week - more to keep him busy & out of bed at my suggestion đŸ€Ș)
With family coming over the last two days , yes it has been extremely busy & tiring , so a lie in is welcomed .
His mantra to me every morning after I have made coffee is “ I’ll just have 10 mins sleeep “and that is no matter what time asi may not of made Coffee until. 8 or later , for gods are you’ve just slept all night !,
He does it on holiday , the suns shining in whatever far flung place we’ve landed ( or it might be a rainy Cornwall or France for that matter ) it is just so annoying .
So for those of you who will say,
“ why does it bother you “ ?

My answer is “ IT DOES” he has been asleep all night, bar the odd bathroom trip .
When he was working he’d literally, get up 10 mins before he needed to leave the house ,shower & was gone .
If he was WFH , well that would be 2 mins !!!

That’s it rant over ,Tia for listening , I have more but will resist my urge & try and wake the grumpy one .

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cc Thu 04-Apr-24 22:18:17

Germanshepherdsmum

Me too. One of the great joys of retirement is no longer having to get up in time to catch the train. If that’s all you’ve got to complain about, you’re lucky. If I were him I would be complaining about your early rising. I would find it intensely annoying.

I've been retired for years but still enjoy not having to suffer that "Monday morning feeling".

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icanhandthemback Fri 05-Apr-24 00:36:29

NanaTuesday, had you posted this in Chat section you probably would have had different responses. AIBU can be more brutal.
I'm a night owl and it takes me a long time to surface in the morning. I go through times when I try to get up earlier but I end up getting over tired and miserable. My husband is lovely enough to let me have my sleep patterns as I need them and a mug of coffee is usually waiting for me. He does have other irritating habits though!

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SuperTinny Fri 05-Apr-24 00:50:57

Now that he is five years retired my DH would love to sleep later but is body clock always wakes him at the same time he used to get up for work, and once he is awake he has to get up. This is of supreme irritation to him!
I also tend to wake early but don't mind lying there in semi- slumber knowing I don't have to get up. In fact that's the best bit for me.
My DH used to bring me a cup of tea when he got up but I could never stir myself enough to drink it so now he doesn't bother!

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freyja Fri 05-Apr-24 10:50:15

I too am an early bird, up with the larks. My DH, night owl, goes to bed late and often falls a sleep in the chair before coming to bed, sometimes 4am and gets up late around 10.30am.

I did worry about this at first and use to wake him to get him to bed but that didn't do either us any good. So I left him to it. If he sleeps too late e.g after 12 noon, I check on him to make sure he still alive! I don't question this anymore coming to the conclusion that DH after working for 60 years and only just retiring at 74, he deserves a rest.

I have got use to our routine and for my part enjoy a peaceful morning doing my own thing, from gardening, swimming, walking or joining friends meeting up for lunch. DH never questions it, he has chosen his routine and I mine. Maybe when he ready he will join me.

By the way, I do the housework including our bedroom when it suits me, not him. I stick to my routine as always which still works 50 years on.

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Ali08 Fri 05-Apr-24 11:41:47

You half did a sentence 'with family coming' but didn't finish it. Were you too tired to?

I'm with your husband. I sm definitely NOT a morning person!

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