DH habits

I’m a night owl and unless necessary love a lie in

I think my husband must be a saint, I lie in bed late and he's usually up earlier, he takes his clothes into another bedroom to get dressed so he doesn't disturb me as I frequently sleep late. Then I read the paper on my ipad watch the news, or Saturday Kitchen at the weekend. I'm the same on holiday, hate getting up for breakfast - which we don't eat at home anyway
I can understand that must be frustrating at times but we are who we are.

Oh I like getting up to a breakfast I've not cooked, and don't have to wash up after.

The rest of the time I'm not so enthusiastic.

Hi what did do you feel is late?

I’m an early bird but sometimes wish I wasn’t 😂

My Partner retired early and he worked full time since he left school ,..I feel he deserves to relax unless We have somewhere to go 🙂

After years of putting the washing on, walking the dogs, packing lunches, hanging the washing out, walking the kids to school and then the dogs to my dear Mum’s before going to work, I am making the most of not having to jump out of bed when an alarm goes off. The only time I’ll set one is if I have an appointment and then I’ll try to make it later in the day. As long as I get the necessary done then all is well.
If I was being told when to get up I’d be telling you where to go ! 😂

Well I wouldn’t be telling my husband when he’s got to get up 🤣 and he wouldn’t be telling me either!

Confusing? Go to spare room and get in your happy routine.

Don’t try to speak to me before 9am and some coffee as you’ll just get some nonsense. I get up between 9 and 9.30.
My partner gets up at 6 am and gets on with his day.
No problem at all for either of us. We have accepted that no relationship is perfect and no one is going to be a carbon copy of ourselves. .
Acceptance is the key to serenity!
I’d just be very grateful that you have his company.
A lot of people are on their own and find it difficult.

i am with your DH, let him stay in bed, if he want's coffee he can come and get it. go and do your own thing, no point in moaning about it, he is not going to change, are you sure he is getting sleep at night?, my late partner had sleep apnea and even after 8/10 hours in bed he was still tired.

Thats a point.
Some people aren't getting uninterrupted sleep at all, but they don't realise.

I am the same.

After years of early mornings my retired DH is happy to lay in bed until about 9ish but if he has a purpose to get up for is usually up and getting on with it! I like to be up fairly early so I now leave him to it. Only frustrating thing is I like to shower as soon as I get up and preferably after him so I can ensure shower screen cleaned and bathroom left clean and tidy. If he lies in my routine gets disrupted 😂 I thank my lucky stars tho that we still have each other to grumble at so many Gransnetters are on their own.

I'm like many of the comments on here, IsNibs is an owl, I'm not (though indigestion and other assorted aches and pains can have me up at odd hours too). Early on, I have the cat for company - though to be fair he latches on to anyone who goes into the kitchen, at any time.

He has said that after most of a life commuting to be in step with office hours, it's a relief to get up later.

On holiday though, IsNibs can and does get up at a more 'normal' time; if we're in hotel or B&B that's likely lured by the treat of a full English b'fast, which we only have if staying away.

My DH is an early bird, he gets up at 6:30am and takes our spaniel out for a walk, then brings me up a nice cuppa and sometimes a slice of toast. Sometimes I then have another snooze.

I’d hate to get up early for no real reason!

NanaTuesday

My DH has a lot of very annoying habits! Some I’ve called him out on, he gets peed off, like for example cutting things on the kitchen counter and then leaving the knife used to butter hints in the middle of the counter, not using plates and walking round the house with a sandwich, not putting the milk away in the fridge and so the list goes on! After 30 years together either ignore it, tolerate or shout at him

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Leave the poor chap alone to have his lie in. You go off and do your thing.

Totally agree with gummie

When you say he doesn’t get up early NanaTuesday what time does he actually get up? My DH often doesn’t surface until after 11, and yes, it does drive me crazy.

Who do larks always seem to consider themselves superior to owls? Why is it considered such a virtue to be a naturally early riser? I have never woken up easily in the morning and, of course, have had to. As long as I am allowed to come to, I am fine, but larks don’t get it and will insist on inane chatter. Yes, mother and sister, I am looking at you. Fortunately, Mr. Music is even more of an owl than I am.

NanaTuesday You didn’t ask for others to list their husband’s annoying habits which would have made for a more interesting read.

Instead they focused on your gripe and with all your responses they kept the thread going. Sorry you took a few hits. Admittedly, I stopped reading after the second page.

Since you’re asking for opinions - I say enjoy the peace and reverie the morning brings - plan your day, do a few things or leave to do errands without him. Simple.

He may be sleeping in to avoid chatter in the AM. He’s the opposite of you, but you knew that all along.

As far as annoying habits in men - I decided twenty-three years ago I was finished with having to live with a man. My life has been peace and quiet. Absolute heaven.

Gundy, I am with you 100%. I’m an owl, dead husband was a lark. Now I’m alone and retired, I am so, so happy to be able to do my own morning routine. Like others here, I wake, spend an hour or two doing admin, reading, listening to radio, and then get up when I feel ready. The freedom that comes with living alone is priceless. (Before the hits come in, yes, I do miss him, just not in the morning!)

My father was an owl, my mother was a lark, I’m an owl and DH is a lark. Both DS are owls and their wives are larks. It’s the way of the world. As one of my sons said to me ‘I feel anxious in the mornings until my brain gets into gear and I can make sense of the world’

Oh my goodness, sorry but I really sympathise with your husband. Sounds like you need to find activities, hobbies etc to do whilst husband relaxes in the mornings. It wouldn’t be unreasonable to expect him to get up and ready for specially arranged outings but every morning sounds like torture to me.

Gundy
I appreciate your candid response .

Poppyred

Sorry, but I sympathise with him. You sound like an early bird and I find them very annoying!

Yes, me too. My husband gets up very early but leaves me alone until I'm ready to get up.