Daughter abroad doesn’t want us to move too far from airport

You must know she is being unreasonable, in your encouragement of her to live her life you may have forgotten to say not to the detriment of others.

Thank you all for such speedy, sensible and kind responses(and the x!). We have checked for activities, hospitals etc and although not a bungalow we can make a downstairs bedroom if needed. Or perhaps one more move if we are desperate. I know in my heart you are all exactly right. She’s a funny fish and I need to ignore the tantrum. Thank you all- have a great day! Xx

I remember when we lived in London a friend took me to see her Aunt who lived nearby.
This older lady was living in an enormous old house with a huge garden and she said that her children (in their forties by then) loved the house and wouldn't let her sell it! They didn't live there, just liked to visit.

I thought they probably had their eye on the value of it and their inheritance but perhaps that was cynical.

I can think of nothing worse than living close to an airport to be honest.
As others have suggested, why can't she get a connecting domestic flight to Norwich airport?
Don't pander to her whims, make the move to your retirement home.

A return from Stansted to Sheringham (whither I would move if going to Norfolk) is £49.40, 1 change.

To Norwich £43.80, direct.

Much more comfortable than the bus. Much easier for you to collect her from than going all the way to Stansted for her.

You move where you want to!!

The coach is so easy!
Direct routes from the Central Bus Station at Heathrow.

I have come to the conclusion that many grown up children are selfish. They have their own children but expect their parents to look after them. Our daughters have never done a thing for us even after their dad died I was told I now had enough money so could afford to pay for jobs doing as they were busy people.

I looked after my mother for 30 years after dad died, we did everything for her and there was no house to sell when she died as she lived in a council house. I have money and a massive detached house which our daughters will inherit.

I would tell your daughter to suck it up, she chose to live abroad not you so now it is your turn to choose where you live without her interference and if she doesn't like it, hard luck.

Fly to Stansted, train to Cambridge, from there train to either Norwich or Kings Lynn.

I am flabbergasted at the sheer cheek and entitlement of the daughter. How dare she, she is selfish beyond measure

Do your own thing Mel. your dd does not seem to care twopence for your situation. She made her choice and now it is time to spread your own wings. Make sure to get somewhere with a room that could house a spare bed, so she cannot blame you for not having the space for her

I don’t drive , so my visiting adult children hire a car for their visits to me , suggest that to her !

Life is short! Find your forever house where it suits you.. she wants you near an airport for her convenience only-she sounds selfish to me

If course you must move to Norfolk, lovely part of the country. I understand your daughters feelings but have to agree with everyone , she is being selfish. Presumably when she moved to the US you supported her and did'nt make her feel guilty for leaving you and her homeland? Perhaps she needs reminding of that fact. She has made her choice and can't expect you to remain in easy reach of the airport just to make her life easier 2 or 3 times a year.
I recognize how difficult this is for you and know you don't want to damage your relationship with her , but she must understand that as she is living her life to suit her then you and your DH / partner are perfectly entitled to do the same ! Stand your ground and I wish you well.

How awful to live near an airport, horrible. At first I thought you must be joking, no one could be that selfish. Talk it over with your daughter but be firm and tell her, don’t ask her,where you want to live.

Well, Mel, it seems it’s a unanimous verdict, go live your life and enjoy a new and exciting adventure in beautiful Norfolk.
Your daughter will come round eventually and if she doesn’t, you’ll be having so much fun you’ll hardly notice.

Absolutely move near to your friends, you shouldn't be friendless because of your daughter!!!

Live where you want to live!

She is being totally unreasonable

Give her some space to have a think, maybe she will realise this is an overreaction

My DD wants me to keep their bedroom here for when she visits, yours wants to keep your house so it’s easier for her to visit, yours takes the 🍪.

I know what I would tell her, it wouldn't be ladylike!

Mel25. Move house to East Anglia, easy drive to Stansted or let her take the train (I drive to Stansted often to fetch people and packages).

Frankly, she is being quite ridiculous. Perhaps this is 'blackmail'? Do as you wish, ignore her, and be happy.

nanna8

How awful to live near an airport, horrible. At first I thought you must be joking, no one could be that selfish. Talk it over with your daughter but be firm and tell her, don’t ask her,where you want to live.

Lots of people live near airports, it's not that difficult in the UK 😁

We used to and that was in the days of Concorde.

There are some very harsh comments on here about the daughter.
I'm sure she loves her parents and she comes back to see them frequently. Sometimes adult DC seem quite surprised (and upset) that their parents want to sell the family home where they grew up.

I'm sure, when she thinks about it, she'll realise she is being unreasonable and that we do actually have transport in the UK to get from Heathrow to various locations. If ths drivers are not on strike, that is.

Do you ever go over to the USA to see her, Mel25?

It's absolutely shocking that she chose to go and live in another country, but thinks you're being selfish for wanting to move 2+ hours from LHR/Stanstead!

I've lived overseas for many years, and frequently travelled by National Express 3+ hours to visit my parents, and now my daughter. It's so easy to hop on the coach right outside the terminal and just relax.

Go and find your new home to enjoy in your retirement, and be close to your friends. You can't live your life just to please your daughter ... it's your life to enjoy! Just do it!

We live about 45 minutes from Heathrow and Stansted

That is not exactly under a flight path where planes are taking off. We lived 5 miles or so from Heathrow and planes did not generally take off over us, only occasionally.

Please move if it makes you happy