Daughter abroad doesn’t want us to move too far from airport

I honestly don’t understand why anyone would move to the US from the UK. But your daughter should not be dictating where you are allowed to live.

Selfish B

None of her business where you live, how selfish is she

Your daughter is being very selfish. If she visited every month, she might be justified in asking for you to move nearer to the airport, (even then, I think she is expecting too much), but once or twice a year?? I don’t think she has the right to expect you to accommodate her for that short amount of visiting time.
Please move to Norfolk if that is what you would like to do. A previous poster made some good points about checking certain things first, so I would do that first, so that you are absolutely sure that is where you want to live.
Your daughter has, hopefully, many years ahead. You, maybe, not so many, so please do what will make you happy.
Good luck and I wish you every happiness for your future.

I've noticed that with adult children. They move away then complain about journey time for visiting! Perhaps she'd like to come and live near you in Norfolk that would solve her travel problems.

Just something else to throw into the mix. My friend's daughter has ditched her mother and will no longer communicate with her over a dispute over where the mother should live. I agree with the posters on here that the OP should live where she likes, and that the daughter should not be dictating. But nowadays "respecting their wishes" seems to mean that you do what they want or else you are at risk of them flouncing off altogether, and you losing your child. Be prepared for this possibility too.

If you have a “pot” remaining after you do your move maybe you could put some money aside for her to take a taxi to Norfolk from the airport? Is she able to fly into Stansted as it’s the most convenient airport if you move.
I think you should suit yourself ultimately and it’s your life to enjoy as you see fit. She has chosen to live abroad

Ignore her silly pout and just send your change of address when the time comes.

I think Norwich via Amsterdam sounds excellent!

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Thank you!

I’d suggest you start a new thread Bellzy under Ask a Gran.

Your daughter is being very unreasonable & selfish! It’s now your time to do what is right for you. My DD & eldest GS flew from Sydney, far longer journey than from the US, to Heathrow recently to stay with me post op. I organised a taxi to bring them to Devon (very reasonable considering the distance) and they returned to LHR on a bus which took them directly into their Terminal. Not a problem.

I would definitely move to Norfolk!! Think of yourselves. You have a life and your daughter has made her life too!!! Selfish girl!!!

So she wants you to live within earshot of noise, and possibly on flightpaths of aeroplanes, and she is begrudging you your serenity in your pension years, just so she can make her journey to see you, a couple of hours shorter? What a brass neck.

Are you moving from the house she grew up in? If so it may be more about finding difficulty in the thought of you giving up the family home. I think many adult children find it sad.....but don't try and stop their parents moving.
If not then yes she is just being unreasonable.

Of course I agree with all the advice already given - move to live where you want to be. You could say to your daughter that this is going to give you a better life and calmly ask her to see it from your point of view. You do see her wish to be able to reach you more easily when she visits, but your overall life and wellbeing outbalance the impact on her, and you hope she can see it in this light. But whether or not she can - move to where you want to be. No need for a battle - this is your choice.

Let me get this right: Your daughter moved all the way to the US (literally many hours and many miles) but doesn't want you to move a couple of hours away from the airport? It's a no brainer. It was her choice to move away from you. Now it's up to you to make your own choice about where you want to live. If your daughter can move miles and miles away from you, she can manage that extra couple of hours when she visits you, in my opinion.

She could get a flight to Schipol Airport and then a short flight to Norwich. A lot of international students at the University of East Anglia found that was an easier journey than flying into Heathrow or Gatwick

There is a direct train to Norwich from Stansted. Are you sure there is not more to this? My adult children struggled with my moving from their childhood home. Is she upset about losing her safety net?

You are most definitely not being unfair. I’m only just learning this, but surely there must be a time in all of our lives that we are able to do what we want to, and choose where we want to live etc. Hopefully she will come round to thinking that she wants her parents to be happy and content. She’s not available to support you day to day, so surely she will want you to be as comfortable as possible. I hope you are able to do what suits you, and your daughter will get over the travelling.

Absolutely move to the country and enjoy yourselves. Your daughter should be pleased for you.

I was wondering how near an airport in the US your DD lives and if you could suggest the same to her.
Move wherever you like. It's none of her business.

Move to Norfolk! We moved here from Essex 9 years ago and it's the best thing we ever did. West Norfolk is still a bit cheaper and less discovered, about an hour from the coast. Tiny village, like going back 50 years; children play out on the Green, everyone is polite and friendly, yet to see any road rage. Enjoy your new home!

I must be very lucky in that neither of my daughters would "dictate" anything to me unless they thought it was unwise for ME and DH. One DD fortunately lives only 25 miles away but even that is a bit of a bind for all of us. The other has made her home nearly 200 miles away and over the past 20+ years we have journeyed to her at least 3 times a year. Like many young people (assuming 40 is young!) she is busy busy with work and hoping for a baby soon, so I can't see her having much more time to come up here - though she does do it a couple of times a year and often for Christmas.

The time will soon be here when we want to downsize and as yet we haven't even considered where that might be, but we will certainly not be doing anything we don't want to.

Obviously your DD must live live a stones throw from an airport in USA that she can't travel for two hours. Do what you want, your DD left, set up her own life, and she's been lucky you have stayed so close to the airport for so long.