Grandchild doesn't like me

Fortunately, all my grandchildren like me - that’s because I never go empty handed. Not big presents, just a little something. If that’s bribery and corruption, so be it .

I only see them every couple of weeks, so it’s ok 😂

Great.post, Whiff.

Sounds perfectly normal behaviour as far as I can see. My DGS wne through a stage of ignoring me and avoiding me and only taking notice of his grandfather.

After about a year or so he grew out of it. I put it down to having 2 grandmas, one who lived near who he saw a lot of and me, but DH was his only grandfather so had novelty value.

I sometimes think my 4 year old granddaughter doesn't like me. She won't let me read to her, won't kiss me goodbye and doesn't really engage with me at all. She was a lockdown baby and clings to her mother if I try to talk to her. I have a very close relationship with her brother, now 10. He has always been so affectionate towards me. I am not pushing things with my granddaughter, and trust she will come round in time.

Dear Wheelchairgran
Do not take this so personally.
It’s happened to me and I’m not in a wheelchair! My granddaughter has been like this with me almost since birth. She’s now 10 and diagnosed with ADHD. She only wants cuddles and conversations with her mum. I don’t try to force her to like me. She can’t help the way she is hopefully in time, for her sake, she will
change.

It is very upsetting when you feel ignored and unloved.
My grandson Adam who has autism ignored me completely until he was 5. I had tried everything to engage with him during his early years. I also felt so guilty that I wasn’t able to take some pressure off my daughter at a very stressful time for her. I eventually decided to back off and let Adam come to me. I am really happy to say that it worked! He is now 14 and we are joined at the hip! Our relationship is amazing. Don’t give up hope - it will come good with time and lots of patience!

I had a granddaughter like that. I just gnored her. She came round, we're very close now.

My just 3 year old Grandson arrived this morning to stay for a few hours while he Mummy went to an exercise class and another appointment.
He wouldn’t move from the hallway as he didn’t want to be at Nanas house.
I told him I would carry on with what I was doing and he could join me when he was ready.
Three hours later he didn’t want to go home, he wanted to stay at Nanas . 😁

I am amazed at how many grown wmen are so dependent on everyone loving them.

Family are people like everyone else. Some we will get on with, some we won't. - and that applies to children as well. I doted on my maternal grandmother but was not overly keen on my paternal grandparent. The feeling was, I think, mutual.

My last DGD was a bit like this with me but I just let it flow past . I think it was her other nana was the one who cared for her while her parents were at work and collected her from nursery etc .
My DIL lost her mum when DGD was about 5 which meant I picked up the slack .
She’s 12 now and being assessed for autism but she also suffers from bad anxiety. Guess who she phones when she is having a meltdown? Yes me , so that shows I’m someone she trusts now .?

Even when at 4 she was relatively fine with me, Gdd2 really kicked off one night. She was in the bath, perfectly happy, until SiL (dd was away for work) put his head round the door to say (in ‘code’) that he was going to pick up Gdd from karate.

Well. She twigged, was out of the bath in a flash, screaming for daddy, but he’d gone. She wouldn’t let me dry her or put her pyjamas on and the screaming went on for 10 minutes - until she collapsed on a sofa and fell instantly asleep!

Was fine when she woke up a few minutes later, when Gdd1 returned from Brownies.
Phew!