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Why do people keep saying this

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Crossstitchfan Tue 30-Jul-24 23:43:47

I know before I ask that I am being unreasonable about what I am going to say.
I don’t know why, but it makes my blood boil when posters start their reply to a post with ‘this.’
Why on earth do you do it? We all have enough of a brain to know that your answer agrees and/or relates to the post it is answering. It just seems a stupid and pointless thing to do. Why not just say ‘I agree’ if you really think it’s necessary?

montymops Fri 02-Aug-24 13:11:16

Never seen this before so no idea what people are talking about - couldn’t get too exercised about it if I did know.
Yours in total ignorance 😂😂

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 13:21:21

LucyAnna2

Dickens

The response this to a post annoys and irritates the OP.

There's a heck of a lot of types of comment, style of comment, etc, on social media that irritate the heck out of me, too - "end of" being one of those comments - but there isn't anything we can do about it because social media has evolved to include all sorts and types of posting styles, jargon, abbreviations, etc, etc, and it will continue to evolve and more pert little response methods will be employed. Which will continue to annoy and irritate.

So we'll just have to be annoyed and accept it.

What worries me far more on social media is all the false 'information', all the lies perpetrated by those with an agenda, and those who can't be bothered to filter fact from fiction who spread it further either naively or deliberately; the speculation, the conspiracy theories; the stupid influencers who manage to persuade young people to do stupid stunts that can result in injury or even death to themselves or others; the misogynists like Andrew Tate who spew their poison into the minds of young teens and men; the deluded young women who though medically obese have been persuaded by a politically-correct culture to 'flaunt' their curves because they are "hot babes" and challenge "Karens" and "Kevins" to deny it because, it's alleged, they are simply jealous. - young women who will suffer God-knows what-all health problems in the near future have been persuaded on social media to expose themselves to both ridicule and praise from the equally deluded. And the social media sites that encourage young people with mental health problems to self-harm, where young girls and boys turn to because there is little real, authentic, legitimate help available to them, courtesy of austerity cuts to mental health services.

And that's not even mentioning the social media site owners on whose 'premises' these atrocities are encouraged.

I could go on, but realise I'm ranting away to an audience who may well have become bored with this thread and long gone. However the above worries me far more than the irritating little cryptic this, end of and all the other abbreviated sentiments of approval - or disapproval.

I know where you’re coming from, Crossstitchfan, but do read Dickens’ post, regarding people (mostly very young) who are affected, sometimes badly, by comments, etc online. Not just annoyed, but badly affected.

That’s a little extreme! I have read Dickens’ post and I think that in the light of the horrendous issues he quotes, my disliking ‘this’ hardly qualifies as something that could drive someone to suicide. I think you have got carried away.
Please read Dickens’ post yourself and see if my objection to ‘this’ could cause any of the dreadful things on here. I think not.

Eil4 Fri 02-Aug-24 13:26:48

I’ve never noticed ‘this’ but I do notice ‘So’ at the beginning of sentences and have wondered why.

cazzar1 Fri 02-Aug-24 13:31:08

To be honest, I've never seen anyone write this before! It took me a while to understand what you were talking about, but I've worked it out 😂

Eil4 Fri 02-Aug-24 13:31:32

Oh Crossstitch fan, thank you! I popped into a lovely little haberdashery shop near me this morning and was advised to iron the linen and purchase a ring which I have. I shall keep at it as I’m finding it quite therapeutic.

Doodledog Fri 02-Aug-24 13:32:28

Well, if we are confessing to our linguistic pet hates, mine are 'uni', 'xyz. NOT' and 'why oh why. . .'?

'This' and 'So' wash over me, as do most 'tics', but those ones are like nails on a blackboard.

Unreasonable? Moi? grin

knspol Fri 02-Aug-24 13:34:55

Doesn't bother me at all, so many more important things going on in the world.

Babs03 Fri 02-Aug-24 13:48:27

When I said I really like the phrase ‘read the room’ I wasn’t implying anything, I just like the phrase.

Babs03 Fri 02-Aug-24 13:49:13

That reply was for crossstitchfan

DanniRae Fri 02-Aug-24 13:50:32

pascal30

Oopsadaisy1

Marydoll

Good grief, there are more important things to stress about!

Language is continually evolving and I see nothing wrong with writing this instead of ditto.

This

🤗

ditto!!!!

I totally agree with the above! smile

LucyAnna2 Fri 02-Aug-24 14:03:49

Crossstitchfan

LucyAnna2

Dickens

The response this to a post annoys and irritates the OP.

There's a heck of a lot of types of comment, style of comment, etc, on social media that irritate the heck out of me, too - "end of" being one of those comments - but there isn't anything we can do about it because social media has evolved to include all sorts and types of posting styles, jargon, abbreviations, etc, etc, and it will continue to evolve and more pert little response methods will be employed. Which will continue to annoy and irritate.

So we'll just have to be annoyed and accept it.

What worries me far more on social media is all the false 'information', all the lies perpetrated by those with an agenda, and those who can't be bothered to filter fact from fiction who spread it further either naively or deliberately; the speculation, the conspiracy theories; the stupid influencers who manage to persuade young people to do stupid stunts that can result in injury or even death to themselves or others; the misogynists like Andrew Tate who spew their poison into the minds of young teens and men; the deluded young women who though medically obese have been persuaded by a politically-correct culture to 'flaunt' their curves because they are "hot babes" and challenge "Karens" and "Kevins" to deny it because, it's alleged, they are simply jealous. - young women who will suffer God-knows what-all health problems in the near future have been persuaded on social media to expose themselves to both ridicule and praise from the equally deluded. And the social media sites that encourage young people with mental health problems to self-harm, where young girls and boys turn to because there is little real, authentic, legitimate help available to them, courtesy of austerity cuts to mental health services.

And that's not even mentioning the social media site owners on whose 'premises' these atrocities are encouraged.

I could go on, but realise I'm ranting away to an audience who may well have become bored with this thread and long gone. However the above worries me far more than the irritating little cryptic this, end of and all the other abbreviated sentiments of approval - or disapproval.

I know where you’re coming from, Crossstitchfan, but do read Dickens’ post, regarding people (mostly very young) who are affected, sometimes badly, by comments, etc online. Not just annoyed, but badly affected.

That’s a little extreme! I have read Dickens’ post and I think that in the light of the horrendous issues he quotes, my disliking ‘this’ hardly qualifies as something that could drive someone to suicide. I think you have got carried away.
Please read Dickens’ post yourself and see if my objection to ‘this’ could cause any of the dreadful things on here. I think not.

I (obviously!) didn’t mean that your objection could cause distress - I meant, as Dickens said, there are far worse things to be concerned about. I did start by saying that I knew what you meant - you seem quite tetchy? I hope you are not unwell, or unhappy.

Labradora Fri 02-Aug-24 14:07:05

I know what the Poster , Crossstitchfan, means. "This" doesn't bother me at all ( I'd barely noticed it) but spoken word broadcasts, interviews etc. very often start with So....... It seems almost obligatory and it gets on my nerves.....
I don't stress over it , it just irritates me.
Language is a living, developing thing and we all have to live with it I'm afraid.

grandtanteJE65 Fri 02-Aug-24 14:34:38

I have not noticed a single post that began with the word "this".

I don't know if we are reading the same posts, or if I am unobeservant.

win Fri 02-Aug-24 14:46:22

grandtanteJE65

I have not noticed a single post that began with the word "this".

I don't know if we are reading the same posts, or if I am unobeservant.

There is an example just above4 your post Grandtante, but to be honest who cares," this, agree, so', thumb up or what ever IT REALLY DOES NOT MATTER, IF IT IRRITATES ANYONE MOVE ON. Can't we for goodness sake just have a thumb up emoji, to save all this irritation the lack of causes? Perhaps if we all beg for one, Admin may give in. Or we could agree just to do the Smile emoji and interpret that as agreeing.

win Fri 02-Aug-24 14:47:31

no. 4 slipped in somehow sorry, we should definitely also have an edit button

LucyAnna2 Fri 02-Aug-24 14:54:05

grandtanteJE65

I have not noticed a single post that began with the word "this".

I don't know if we are reading the same posts, or if I am unobeservant.

Sometimes, if a poster agrees with a previous post, they quote it and type ‘this’ - meaning “hear, hear, I agree”. (It’s not a post beginning with ‘this’)

PamQS Fri 02-Aug-24 14:54:49

I am guilty of saying ‘hard agree’, which is probably even more annoying,

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 15:27:53

LucyAnna2

Crossstitchfan

LucyAnna2

Dickens

The response this to a post annoys and irritates the OP.

There's a heck of a lot of types of comment, style of comment, etc, on social media that irritate the heck out of me, too - "end of" being one of those comments - but there isn't anything we can do about it because social media has evolved to include all sorts and types of posting styles, jargon, abbreviations, etc, etc, and it will continue to evolve and more pert little response methods will be employed. Which will continue to annoy and irritate.

So we'll just have to be annoyed and accept it.

What worries me far more on social media is all the false 'information', all the lies perpetrated by those with an agenda, and those who can't be bothered to filter fact from fiction who spread it further either naively or deliberately; the speculation, the conspiracy theories; the stupid influencers who manage to persuade young people to do stupid stunts that can result in injury or even death to themselves or others; the misogynists like Andrew Tate who spew their poison into the minds of young teens and men; the deluded young women who though medically obese have been persuaded by a politically-correct culture to 'flaunt' their curves because they are "hot babes" and challenge "Karens" and "Kevins" to deny it because, it's alleged, they are simply jealous. - young women who will suffer God-knows what-all health problems in the near future have been persuaded on social media to expose themselves to both ridicule and praise from the equally deluded. And the social media sites that encourage young people with mental health problems to self-harm, where young girls and boys turn to because there is little real, authentic, legitimate help available to them, courtesy of austerity cuts to mental health services.

And that's not even mentioning the social media site owners on whose 'premises' these atrocities are encouraged.

I could go on, but realise I'm ranting away to an audience who may well have become bored with this thread and long gone. However the above worries me far more than the irritating little cryptic this, end of and all the other abbreviated sentiments of approval - or disapproval.

I know where you’re coming from, Crossstitchfan, but do read Dickens’ post, regarding people (mostly very young) who are affected, sometimes badly, by comments, etc online. Not just annoyed, but badly affected.

That’s a little extreme! I have read Dickens’ post and I think that in the light of the horrendous issues he quotes, my disliking ‘this’ hardly qualifies as something that could drive someone to suicide. I think you have got carried away.
Please read Dickens’ post yourself and see if my objection to ‘this’ could cause any of the dreadful things on here. I think not.

I (obviously!) didn’t mean that your objection could cause distress - I meant, as Dickens said, there are far worse things to be concerned about. I did start by saying that I knew what you meant - you seem quite tetchy? I hope you are not unwell, or unhappy.

I love it! I hope (am sure) you’ll love it. If I can help with anything to do with this great hobby, please ask. One little tip, when you stop stitching for the day, take the fabric out of the ring and lay it flat.
Enjoy it. I have been stitching since 1995 and still love it.

GrammaH Fri 02-Aug-24 15:34:42

I'm sorry and must be having an extremely dense day as I don't know what you mean! Please give me an example. Is it just the word 'this' on its own?? I'm not familiar with the use of the word

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 15:36:38

Oh Lordy, now I’ve put the reply to someone else on your thread and don’t know how to get it off! Sorry!
To answer you, you may be right, I feel a bit tetchy, not least because I am stretching myself a little thin at the moment. I am more ancient than you might think and sometimes I overdo it by trying to be all things to all people. I’m on Mumsnet as well and this reply was meant for there. Sorry for the upset. I’m fine really, just a bit stressed. Thanks for your concern

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 15:40:10

GrammaH

I'm sorry and must be having an extremely dense day as I don't know what you mean! Please give me an example. Is it just the word 'this' on its own?? I'm not familiar with the use of the word

Sometimes when a person reads a post and finds that they agree with what has been said, they write ‘this’ instead of saying ‘I agree’.
It just annoyed me and I mentioned it. Then it grew wings and became a big issue! I am trying to forget it.if they want to write ‘this’, it’s up to them!

SaxonGrace Fri 02-Aug-24 15:41:50

I’m sure we all hear words or phrases that make us grind our teeth, I hadn’t noticed ‘ this’ much , my bugbear is the fashion to start sentences with So……..ggggrrrrrrr

LucyAnna2 Fri 02-Aug-24 15:45:11

Crossstitchfan

Oh Lordy, now I’ve put the reply to someone else on your thread and don’t know how to get it off! Sorry!
To answer you, you may be right, I feel a bit tetchy, not least because I am stretching myself a little thin at the moment. I am more ancient than you might think and sometimes I overdo it by trying to be all things to all people. I’m on Mumsnet as well and this reply was meant for there. Sorry for the upset. I’m fine really, just a bit stressed. Thanks for your concern

We all have those days! No worries. Look after yourself.

Callistemon213 Fri 02-Aug-24 15:49:02

I’m on Mumsnet as well and this reply was meant for there. Sorry for the upset. I’m fine really, just a bit stressed

Thst's enough to stress you out if you let it!
On the other hand, I've just discovered it can e great fun and enlightening.

Hope you feel calmer soon.
Zen 😴

Callistemon213 Fri 02-Aug-24 15:52:18

I love it! I hope (am sure) you’ll love it. If I can help with anything to do with this great hobby, please ask. One little tip, when you stop stitching for the day, take the fabric out of the ring and lay it flat.
Enjoy it. I have been stitching since 1995 and still love it.

Do you block it like crochet or knitting pieces?
So many ends to sew in on my latest project, the worst bit.