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Why do people keep saying this

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Crossstitchfan Tue 30-Jul-24 23:43:47

I know before I ask that I am being unreasonable about what I am going to say.
I don’t know why, but it makes my blood boil when posters start their reply to a post with ‘this.’
Why on earth do you do it? We all have enough of a brain to know that your answer agrees and/or relates to the post it is answering. It just seems a stupid and pointless thing to do. Why not just say ‘I agree’ if you really think it’s necessary?

Amalegra Fri 02-Aug-24 12:02:14

It’s just a new way of expressing agreement that’s all! We ourselves don’t speak or write in the same way as our ancestors did and would we want to? Jane Austen type formality would be very odd today, wouldn’t it? I personally enjoy the development of our wonderful English language all around the world and we can expect more of these abbreviated expressions as AI and technology become more and more a part of our lives. There still are the beautiful words from bygone years to give us pleasure and these days we can treasure them in so many different media.

Sasta Fri 02-Aug-24 12:04:21

mabon1

You would have something to man abiut if your daughter was dying of cancer, weighs under five stone and in constant pain. Get a grip woman.

Unnecessary and hurtful. I’m very sorry if you are suffering, but where’s the point of spoiling anybody’s day with this kind of response?

pipsaucer Fri 02-Aug-24 12:06:06

Honestly! As if there's not enough problems in the world to worry about!

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:13:04

Eil4

Crossstitchfan this ( 😂) has nothing to do with your post but with your ‘name’ . I have just found a cross stitch kit belonging to my late MiL and thought I might give it a go in her memory. But … it’s difficult as there are no obvious holes to stick my needle into so my stitches thus far are uneven. Frustrated!!

What does it say on the front of the kit packaging? Does it mention, for example, 14 count Aida? You say there are no holes to stick your needle in but I think you mean they are too close together which sounds as though it may be linen. Let me know what the kit is and I can private message you with some help.

Dickens Fri 02-Aug-24 12:14:48

The response this to a post annoys and irritates the OP.

There's a heck of a lot of types of comment, style of comment, etc, on social media that irritate the heck out of me, too - "end of" being one of those comments - but there isn't anything we can do about it because social media has evolved to include all sorts and types of posting styles, jargon, abbreviations, etc, etc, and it will continue to evolve and more pert little response methods will be employed. Which will continue to annoy and irritate.

So we'll just have to be annoyed and accept it.

What worries me far more on social media is all the false 'information', all the lies perpetrated by those with an agenda, and those who can't be bothered to filter fact from fiction who spread it further either naively or deliberately; the speculation, the conspiracy theories; the stupid influencers who manage to persuade young people to do stupid stunts that can result in injury or even death to themselves or others; the misogynists like Andrew Tate who spew their poison into the minds of young teens and men; the deluded young women who though medically obese have been persuaded by a politically-correct culture to 'flaunt' their curves because they are "hot babes" and challenge "Karens" and "Kevins" to deny it because, it's alleged, they are simply jealous. - young women who will suffer God-knows what-all health problems in the near future have been persuaded on social media to expose themselves to both ridicule and praise from the equally deluded. And the social media sites that encourage young people with mental health problems to self-harm, where young girls and boys turn to because there is little real, authentic, legitimate help available to them, courtesy of austerity cuts to mental health services.

And that's not even mentioning the social media site owners on whose 'premises' these atrocities are encouraged.

I could go on, but realise I'm ranting away to an audience who may well have become bored with this thread and long gone. However the above worries me far more than the irritating little cryptic this, end of and all the other abbreviated sentiments of approval - or disapproval.

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:18:07

Sasta

TerriBull

I read it as a more emphatic version of agree, "this" encapsulates all the points I would make, perhaps it should be preceded by "exsctly" for even more emphasis. I'm probably over thinking it though before your post it hadn't occurred to me to question it.

Exactly this TerriBull. I completely agree with everything you’ve said in your post. But ‘this’ says it all and to me, and displays a touch of exasperation, so ‘this’ makes sense to me. We all have our foibles though Crossstitchfan.

Sasta, You are absolutely right about foibles! I tell you what though, the worst thing I have ever done on here was to start this thread but I can’t understand how something so mundane and unimportant has caused such disagreement. I shan’t be starting any more threads for a while!

LisaP Fri 02-Aug-24 12:18:35

In the giant scheme of things… does it really matter?

TerriBull Fri 02-Aug-24 12:20:13

Oh don't worry Crosstitch fan we all have foibles, I certainly do, too numerous to mention grin

singingnutty Fri 02-Aug-24 12:26:41

I don't know what the weather is like where you all are, but it's very hot here and it's easy to get crochety. As someone said back up the thread it's sometimes been a bit unkind on GN recently. There is so much awfulness out there in society at the moment that perhaps we could calm down on here?

Wyllow3 Fri 02-Aug-24 12:28:15

Another saying dont worry Crosstitchfan you started it in good faith threads wander especially as they grow longer.

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:28:18

LisaP

In the giant scheme of things… does it really matter?

No, but surely the whole point of this site is to chat about things. Most won’t be important, talking about them is called communicating.
If you think people’s comments don’t matter, why are you even on here?? (That is not meant in a nasty way! It’s a genuine question)

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:29:40

TerriBull

Oh don't worry Crosstitch fan we all have foibles, I certainly do, too numerous to mention grin

Thank you for your kind words. Much appreciated

RosiesMaw2 Fri 02-Aug-24 12:30:35

Eloquently expressed Dickens and I suspect reflecting the views of many if not all of us, particularly since the events in Southport and the violence which followed, deliberately whipped up by whichever far Right or Putin-inspired faction spreading false information on Social media to the gullible.

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:32:22

Wyllow3

Another saying dont worry Crosstitchfan you started it in good faith threads wander especially as they grow longer.

Thanks for your support, Wyllow3. It’s kind of you to say that, and yes, when I stared the thread, I didn’t anticipate it turning a bit nasty. I shall think twice next time!

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:33:44

singingnutty

I don't know what the weather is like where you all are, but it's very hot here and it's easy to get crochety. As someone said back up the thread it's sometimes been a bit unkind on GN recently. There is so much awfulness out there in society at the moment that perhaps we could calm down on here?

Wise words! I had no idea my innocent post would turn so nasty!

MissAdventure Fri 02-Aug-24 12:36:03

Don't give it a second thought, CrossStitch.

Any thread on here has the potential to turn nasty.

wink

LucyAnna2 Fri 02-Aug-24 12:38:25

Dickens

The response this to a post annoys and irritates the OP.

There's a heck of a lot of types of comment, style of comment, etc, on social media that irritate the heck out of me, too - "end of" being one of those comments - but there isn't anything we can do about it because social media has evolved to include all sorts and types of posting styles, jargon, abbreviations, etc, etc, and it will continue to evolve and more pert little response methods will be employed. Which will continue to annoy and irritate.

So we'll just have to be annoyed and accept it.

What worries me far more on social media is all the false 'information', all the lies perpetrated by those with an agenda, and those who can't be bothered to filter fact from fiction who spread it further either naively or deliberately; the speculation, the conspiracy theories; the stupid influencers who manage to persuade young people to do stupid stunts that can result in injury or even death to themselves or others; the misogynists like Andrew Tate who spew their poison into the minds of young teens and men; the deluded young women who though medically obese have been persuaded by a politically-correct culture to 'flaunt' their curves because they are "hot babes" and challenge "Karens" and "Kevins" to deny it because, it's alleged, they are simply jealous. - young women who will suffer God-knows what-all health problems in the near future have been persuaded on social media to expose themselves to both ridicule and praise from the equally deluded. And the social media sites that encourage young people with mental health problems to self-harm, where young girls and boys turn to because there is little real, authentic, legitimate help available to them, courtesy of austerity cuts to mental health services.

And that's not even mentioning the social media site owners on whose 'premises' these atrocities are encouraged.

I could go on, but realise I'm ranting away to an audience who may well have become bored with this thread and long gone. However the above worries me far more than the irritating little cryptic this, end of and all the other abbreviated sentiments of approval - or disapproval.

I know where you’re coming from, Crossstitchfan, but do read Dickens’ post, regarding people (mostly very young) who are affected, sometimes badly, by comments, etc online. Not just annoyed, but badly affected.

Babs03 Fri 02-Aug-24 12:44:50

One phrase that has come into use in the past few years is ‘read the room’ I might hate other new phrases but I love this one because I think it something we all need to do more.

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:46:00

mabon1

You would have something to man abiut if your daughter was dying of cancer, weighs under five stone and in constant pain. Get a grip woman.

I am very sorry about your daughter and can appreciate the hell you are all going through. That’s the honest truth as I have been through similar myself.
However, when I post, I obviously have no idea what is going on in people’s lives. Neither has anyone else on here, and no-one can assume to stop people posting because they have something horrendous going on in their lives.
Clearly, you are on here, reading the comments so it begs the question, if some posts upset you, why are you putting yourself through this?

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:46:50

Presume, not assume, apologies

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:48:41

Babs03

One phrase that has come into use in the past few years is ‘read the room’ I might hate other new phrases but I love this one because I think it something we all need to do more.

I so agree but nothing in her post made me think there might be something horrendous going on in her life. Had I thought that, I would certainly not posted.

win Fri 02-Aug-24 12:55:07

The ones I see a lot lately on social media are "I am with you" and "You have got this". I have not read all 5 pages so it might have been mentioned already, but is that an American influence too? Sometimes it does not even appear to relate nor be appropriate.

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 12:58:38

MissAdventure

Don't give it a second thought, CrossStitch.

Any thread on here has the potential to turn nasty.

wink

Thank you for that. You are right but I am also seeing how many lovely, helpful, upbeat people there are on here (including you) and I treasure them.

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 13:00:42

Juicylucy

This!
Sorry couldn’t resist it but I do agree with you.

You’re forgiven!!

Crossstitchfan Fri 02-Aug-24 13:05:50

Dickens

The response this to a post annoys and irritates the OP.

There's a heck of a lot of types of comment, style of comment, etc, on social media that irritate the heck out of me, too - "end of" being one of those comments - but there isn't anything we can do about it because social media has evolved to include all sorts and types of posting styles, jargon, abbreviations, etc, etc, and it will continue to evolve and more pert little response methods will be employed. Which will continue to annoy and irritate.

So we'll just have to be annoyed and accept it.

What worries me far more on social media is all the false 'information', all the lies perpetrated by those with an agenda, and those who can't be bothered to filter fact from fiction who spread it further either naively or deliberately; the speculation, the conspiracy theories; the stupid influencers who manage to persuade young people to do stupid stunts that can result in injury or even death to themselves or others; the misogynists like Andrew Tate who spew their poison into the minds of young teens and men; the deluded young women who though medically obese have been persuaded by a politically-correct culture to 'flaunt' their curves because they are "hot babes" and challenge "Karens" and "Kevins" to deny it because, it's alleged, they are simply jealous. - young women who will suffer God-knows what-all health problems in the near future have been persuaded on social media to expose themselves to both ridicule and praise from the equally deluded. And the social media sites that encourage young people with mental health problems to self-harm, where young girls and boys turn to because there is little real, authentic, legitimate help available to them, courtesy of austerity cuts to mental health services.

And that's not even mentioning the social media site owners on whose 'premises' these atrocities are encouraged.

I could go on, but realise I'm ranting away to an audience who may well have become bored with this thread and long gone. However the above worries me far more than the irritating little cryptic this, end of and all the other abbreviated sentiments of approval - or disapproval.

Interesting post, thanks.

BUT - now you have reminded me about ‘end of’ which I also hate!
Whose side are you on ? 😀