As for love comments, I have said my feelings in the page previous. As for my partner feelings, I know they are words but we both said we feel in love instantly. He tells me everyday that he loves me, he fancies me, he is touchy feely, he says I am getting a version of him that's never existed before. That is because he felt he settled in his last relationship. They were together 7 years and didn't speak about marriage or kids. He was .married sometime ago and we both said after meeting early on that we didn't see the point in marriage but then our feelings grew and both wsnt marriage with each other.
As for childcare, my partner said I could go part time if I wanted or not return but we would plan for that and it would be my decision. I've said I at the minimum would consider pt but I won't give up work. He agreed. He thinks keeping a job will be beneficial. When returning to work, my parents have offered to look after baby 1/2 times a week. I can work from home half of the week and he is solely working from home. My job is fairly relaxed and I usually make my work from home days "admin" days. This doesn't mean I do nothing but it isn't demanding and I could easily have baby by my side. Equally my work offers flexibility too and I am able to start later and finish later or vice versa. My partners role is demanding and he is in a lot of meetings so he can't simply look after baby during working hours. However, alot of his clients are american and he has the option of flexing hours so he is working americsn time. This means, we could plan our week out - who is working lates / early this week and who can look after baby. We have of course said that we need tk see what happens. If it doesn't work out as planned then perhaps we need to look at nurseries or changing something at work. My office in an hr away but my mum lives 5 minutes away and i could easily pop baby at her house before going into office.
He does love a spreadsheet and has worked out childcare costs, additional food, spending etc based on an estimation. He might seen boring with his spreadsheets but he is very sensible, he isn't in any debt - well he has taken out a few loans for hosue work but it's managed debt that he can afford. He earns a very good salary and it mostly goes to his house. The house isn't really suitable for us - it's too rural - isn't a bad thing but hardly any public transport .. not great when we've wanted to venture into the nearest city for a night out or dinner (one always has to drive). Also, the backgarden isn't great for my dog and there's things my partner doesn't like now - shared driveway, garden on a slope, etc. So he has good intentions.
For my pension, he has encouraged me to select a beneficiary as he said itll go to hmrc if I pass. He said he doesn't want it changed to him as he doesn't need it and he wants me to think about my family and if someone there could need it. As for wills, I haven't written one (yet!). He said he said to think about my family and bump and to not name him in my will (unless we own property together) as he would rather someone who needs it could have it or it all goes to our baby.
My family all like him and does my friends.
When I first met, I was unsure of 15 years age gap but I fancied him so much and saw he had good intentions immediately. I only ever get green flags from him. The only red flag is he works alot but his work over allocated him and he has said it needs to change in the new year or he is walking (he is quite senior and a few companies are interested in him). He said this because it's affecting his work life balance and because he doesn't want work interfering with us and our baby when they are here x
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