Where’s my …?

Curlywhirly

'Have you seen my keys, phone, ear buds' etc is asked so often, that I've come to accept it. But, what really pushes my buttons is when I explain in detail where something in the fridge is (middle shelf, lefthand side, behind the butter etc) he cannot for the life of him find it! Grrrr 😤

Yes, is infuriating, I sometimes send my DH to the supermarket with a list, he always calls when he can't find an item so I tell him exactly where to find it, giving foolproof instructions, he rings off, then he comes home and says the supermarket didn't have the item he rang about. The next time I go there is the item, large as life and exactly where it always is.

I dont really understand why DH continues to do this, I always without fail say no.

Oh I’m so glad I’m the only one . I’d add hearing aids to my DH list . He’s had them for 6 months and can’t get in the habit of wearing them daily .
I like the idea of a basket though . We have a wooden box for keys , a long way from the front door , and a drawer for glasses , earbuds and sunglasses .

Well, Curlywhirly, just don’t let him ring off until he has walked to where you sent him, and is actually holding the item in his hand! If he insists there isn’t one there tell him to photograph the gap where it should be! Some men are a nightmare. Thankfully, my late husband wasn’t, and, in fact, he was better at it than I was!

Where's my pen. I probably say this 3 or 4 times a day. Not a pen type pen , one of those with the little rubber type material on the end for ease of scrolling.

I have at least 4 but I manage to lose them during the day

When my teenage grand daughter asks this and is told where it is she often comes back and says it’s not there. My daughter then says “ hang on Ill come and look with my mummy eyes” and then finds it straight away. Grandaughter is usually not impressed!

As we speak, I am wondering where I left my car keys. Fortunately, I have a spare set. Tomorrow, a detailed search will be conducted !

And I’ve lost the bottom half of the box belonging to the jigsaw I’ve just finished. It’s not under or behind the sofa and it’s too big to fit in a box…

I’ve asked DH where it is. Apparently he’s no idea either.

I have made the innocent mistake of saying when did you last have it. It’s ended in a ridiculous argument that was totally out of context now when I am asked have you seen? I simply don’t respond. The lost item is always found in a ridiculous place like the fridge so I say nothing life is too short.

I know where it is. It's on a flat surface.

I have taken after my late mother in using her standard reply, "it's wherever you left it"

WoodLane7

I have taken after my late mother in using her standard reply, "it's wherever you left it"

Or
‘It will be in the last place you look’.
Silly, because you wouldn’t carry on looking if you had found it.
I seem to recall Dave Allen making a joke about this.

Mr A can find nothing in a cupboard unless it is located right at the very front........he never considers moving other things to find what he is looking for. Same for the fridge!

I've lost my glasses is the one I hear all the time. 'NO' you have put them down somewhere. They are not lost!!!!!

Snap curlywhirly so annoying

Glad to see it isn't just my DH. I usually reply, "It's where we usually keep the [insert name of thing he "can't find"]." It also used to happen with other males I've shared a house with - I can only assume that nobody told them to lift other stuff out of the way in the relevant cupboard/drawer. I don't want to start a gender war, but would that have been their mothers, possibly? We reap what we sow. Don't moan and get it for him yourself - leave him to it. He'll learn.

Worse, it's not 'where is my....' it's 'where have you hidden my.....'

Yes, my pain-in-the-proverbial is the same. I used to try and prompt him to think where he was when he last used/saw the item, but this used to erupt into a row/accusatory comments. So now I just say 'no' and let him find it himself.
The latest was his erupting that there were no clean bath towels in the airing cupboard, in the tone of voice which suggested we had been burgled for the sake of a few ratty well used towels..
On this occasion I was eventually able to tell him (in between the ranting) that the pile of fresh towels was in the bedroom the airing cupboard is in, just hadn't been put in the cupboard if he'd bothered to look with his eyes instead of his mouth.....

Just be grateful you still have your husband, many of us have not.

Where's my?.... and Have you seen my?... are constant questions in my house. I'm usually the one making the plea. Mostly it's glasses and hearing aids, but it can be anything from pencils and pens to gloves and hats. Husband's infuriating answer is usually "wherever you left them".

NonGrannyMoll

Glad to see it isn't just my DH. I usually reply, "It's where we usually keep the [insert name of thing he "can't find"]." It also used to happen with other males I've shared a house with - I can only assume that nobody told them to lift other stuff out of the way in the relevant cupboard/drawer. I don't want to start a gender war, but would that have been their mothers, possibly? We reap what we sow. Don't moan and get it for him yourself - leave him to it. He'll learn.

Nongrannymol
No problem there , as previously stated , not a moan , I’ve given up on that .
Tonight a passing stranger knocked with DH ‘Car & Door keys 🔑’
For that we are grateful as it was already dark & DH had no idea he’d dropped them .

mabon1

Just be grateful you still have your husband, many of us have not.

maboni ,
Sorry that it upset you , 🙏 but an unnecessary response .

Nobody is being ungrateful 🙄
We don't all have to swoon around on a cloud of gratitude, anyway. 1

Tenko

Oh I’m so glad I’m the only one . I’d add hearing aids to my DH list . He’s had them for 6 months and can’t get in the habit of wearing them daily .
I like the idea of a basket though . We have a wooden box for keys , a long way from the front door , and a drawer for glasses , earbuds and sunglasses .

Tenko , We also have a hook for keys one for Front door / car & another for sheds / garage / bikes or whatever.
Also a bowl type thing for mainly for DH wallet . I have now designated a drawer for glasses & wallet but fear it may become a ‘junk drawer’ which i’ve never had so may have to rethink !

Mine usually says “ I’ve lost my…..” and my answer is “no you haven’t you just can’t find it”. Next question from me “when did you last have it?” etc. DH gets in such a panic that I usually end up helping him look for it. He’s been very lucky in that people have found his wallet outside, his phone in the shopping centre and such. I’ve just come to accept as part of life’s rich pattern. It’s just not good for me to get too stressed out.

I’m pretty sure lots of us will become more forgetful as we get older.