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Glad you said that Jaxjacky - thought I'd entered a time warp.

Rainbow1235

Whilst I feel sorry that you’re upset I also feel there are peaple out there with real struggles and problems . If u want something do as I do and buy it yourself that way u wont be disappointed x

Ditto!

You have said he his not good at presents so give him a list to choose from, I doubt he will change now.

Buy yourself something you see during the year that you really love. Wrap it up and give it to him to give you on the day. He will be heaving a sigh of relief. You'll get something you want.

Are you more bothered about the lack of present or the embarrassment of not having a present to open in front of other people?

If he says you're too fussy sounds like he's been nagged in the past for getting the wrong thing, so maybe he's given up trying to please.

When you said there was nothing you particularly wanted, maybe he thought you meant you didn't want a present.

I don't really enjoy getting presents. I find it a bit nerve wracking because if I get something I really don't need or want I find it difficult to look pleased. My husband is quite good though because he knows the sorts of things I like and he remembers if I happen to mention something.

Maybe it would be better to give your husband a list of things you would like - and then he can choose one or two out of the list so it is still a nice surprise. Or, as Nanicky says, just ask for the money and get something you really want.

Give him a choice of items, online, or in somewhere like argos, then ask him to choose one, and get it for you.

It'll be difficult to make a list, since you don't want or need anything though, surely?

Haven’t you posted/started a thread on this before? I can’t remember what advice you were offered then, but presumably it didn’t help?

It would never occur to me NOT to buy my wife a birthday or Christmas present. The older we get, the more we rely on asking each other what we would like, but we still wrap it and hand it over, with a card on birthdays.

Help him out rather than criticise he asked you and it wasn’t very helpful of you to say there was nothing you wanted!

You re really dragging this out second thread about it just get over it it’s really not a crime
Why on earth should it worry you nearly two months on You told him you wanted nothing and you got what you asked for
Next time when he asks say well I can’t think of anything particular but I ll always accept flowers, chocolates or a bottle or two😀
Men can sometimes take things much more literally so if you asked for nothing that’s what you got
Let it go and get on with your life he doesn’t sound a bad husband just doesn’t think out the box …normal for many

This present business!

How many of us want, or need, most of the ones we are given, either by DH or anyone else?

My DH and I stopped buying for each other many years ago, absolutely pointless.

If he gave me a box of chocolates at Christmas, I would think what a waste.

We are not 5 years old.

Elowen33

You have said he his not good at presents so give him a list to choose from, I doubt he will change now.

Completely agree!
Write him a list and let him choose from that.......if he is anything like MrA he will buy everything just to be on the safe side.
And for what it's worth, there are worse things in life............just saying.

Oh for goodness sake, most, not all men are hopeless with gifts, I told my husband many years ago not to get me anything, because frankly, he didn’t seem to have any idea what I might like.
If I want something, I buy it, I just can’t see what all the fuss is about.

This brought back memories of when I had our first baby (1969). Very much wanted and planned, but money was in shot supply as I was to be a stay at home Mum,
My parents bought us a lovely pram, and in the shop there was matching pram bag which hooked onto the bottom of this (under the handle), but cost two pounds.
So, I told hubbie, NOT to buy me flowers when baby is born but to get that bag.
Come the birth - those days we had to stay in hospital/maternity home for ten days with first baby - five bed ward, all but one were first time babies. Come visiting time, hubbies all appear with flowers - mine just telling me he had got the bag and could not understand that I had still expected him to get me some flowers!!!!! I was so upset.

My now ex didn’t buy me flowers (or anything) when our son was born either Fran. I will never forget the disappointment.

The OP must know by now that her husband is useless at buying presents, not unusual in my experience, so the way to go is either give him the clearest possible instructions or buy it yourself and hand it to him for wrapping. Saying there’s nothing you really want is a recipe for getting nothing.

As the OP has an older thread on the same subject, it must be taking over her life - such a waste of time.

Let it go. Grow up and move on.

Georgesgran

As the OP has an older thread on the same subject, it must be taking over her life - such a waste of time.

Let it go. Grow up and move on.

I wonder if there are other issues in he marriage.

I agree, let it go, it’s February for goodness sake, how long does this poor man have to suffer?

One year in particular I was disappointed that OH didn't make a slightly better effort for a Christmas present for me, even though I had told him what I'd like. After that, I suggested we join with our adult children in not-secret Santa draw. That way each of us gets one present at least!
We also don't buy each other birthday presents any more - no expectations means no disappointment!

Jaxjacky

You posted this on 30th December and had a lot of sympathetic replies, I’m not sure what you’re asking?

Me neither.
I remember you posting before.

As Marydol suggests, possibly there are other issues within the OP's marriage.
Otherwise, I'd say that the OP is looking for attention by once again asking the same question which was extensively answered previously.

DH and I don't buy each other presents. We can't think of any suitable and tend to buy what we want all year. It's suits us well.

Hubby and I don't buy each other anything for Christmas. We have a day together in January shopping in the sales and buying each other whatever we want. We also buy anything for our home we need. We have lunch and make a day if it.

The fact that you are posting about this again shows this is something that is just not going away. For that reason, it sounds like you need some help. Speak to your Dr or refer yourself for counselling so you can find out the route of the problem.

Secondly you are doing what a lot of us do and wonder why a man can't see it for themselves. Your husband isn't psychic so he won't know that you are upset unless you tell him. Even if he realises you are upset, he may be keeping quiet and hoping it will just go away. I doubt he will still be thinking you are upset about a Christmas present!