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Lyn57 Sun 16-Feb-25 17:50:09

AIBU I have facial shingles ( taking anti virals) after a very painful few days starting to feel better although still have pain . rash and scabs on one side of face and swollen eye and have caught a cold / cough as well. Husband just said his friend , who lives abroad, and is staying in a hotel 12 miles away is coming to visit us tomorrow - I usually cook but really don’t feel up to it I said can you not put him off or go visit him at the hotel but husbands said he’s coming to see him as he’s not seen him for couple of years (He’s not a close friend to me , I’ve only met him when he’s come to our house and I’ve prepared a meal for them - there’s usually a couple of them) I feel upset as although I have been cooking for my husband it’s been quick easy meals - my friends say oh hope your husbands looking after you but he doesn’t even offer to make me a cup of tea unless it’s is on his terms ie when he wants a drink. I expected him to say oh his friend was coming over to see him tomorrow but as I’m not well he will go see him instead - my husband does have a car. Husband says well you can stay upstairs when they come . If I felt better I’d just go out for a long walk but then tbh if I was ok I’d have just prepared food and drink for them.

Allsorts Thu 20-Feb-25 08:17:10

Don't hide upstairs, leave the entertaining to your husband. Say hello from a distance and sorry you can't join them but you are contagious and I'll leave them to catch up.

Allsorts Thu 20-Feb-25 08:19:07

PS He's lucky it's not me he's married to, the would be cooking his own meals I am sure he can manage toast.

WelwynWitch3 Thu 27-Mar-25 18:51:45

Sorry I would not shut myself away in my own home, stay put in the lounge and let your husbands friend see how ill you are. He will realise himself you have an inconsiderate selfish husband. Do not under any circumstances offer refreshments, that is your husbands responsibility. I would be fuming, but I really don’t think my husband would do such a thing, and he is far from perfect!