My daughter has excluded me because I did not like the name she chose for her new baby.

Goodness me , you are totally wrong.
Your child can call THEIR children exactly what they want...just as you did.
No matter what are family names or your choices.
YOU HAVE NO OPINION!
I think you must apologise for your mistake and accept whatever they name baby, if you want to restore relationships.

Baby's name does not need your stamp of approval! You are not the parent. My grandaughter was meant to have my mum's name as her middle name but it was changed at last minute as they decided to ask her big brother and he chose it. Yes I would have preferred my mum's name but. I thought that was fine. I love my grabdaughter regardless of name. I also think your daughter is being very childish going into a rage but you also are being petty. Just live your granchild whatever the name

I feel sorry for you Ambergreen. It really hurts to be on bad terms with your grownup child, especially at this special, fleeting time. Do anything you can to make it up with her! Apologise and mean it, and leave your ego at home. Read some books, get some counselling; grow.

Yea my family nale is Thistlewood, beat that!!!!!!!

Grammaretto

I don't know why Troy doesn't appeal to me Rula. It has associations I suppose. It sounds American.
It's a place-name.
It would be fine for a pet.
As you say "horses for courses"
I like unusual names and old fashioned names too but Troy is neither.

Although Troy peaked 50-60 years ago (perhaps due to Troy Tempest in Stingray) it has been a top 500 name in the US since the 1880s.

TheWeirdoAgain1 Tue 18-Mar-25 09:30:17 How exactly is ''Æ'' even pronounced?

It's pronounced a bit like "e?"

As in
larvae
curriculum vitae
antennae
algae
etc

Absolutely none of your business!! We kept well out of anything to do with the naming of our grandsons since both my mother & DH's put in their pennyworth when our 2 were born & I well remember how hurtful they both managed to be! First DGS is called Lucius which caused a big swallow then a big smile , not what we'd have chosen but he does have his dad's middle name as his middle name so that's nice. We anticipated 2nd grandson might be Atticus or similar but no, we have a Troy! Again, quite a shock & not what we'd expected and it's certainly taken a while to get used to! We've never said a word about it to his parents. His middle name is his mother's family name - an old fashioned boys name as it happens. The boys are now 11 & 7 and we can't imagine them being called anything else, they are their names! It really is nobody else's business what children are called except their parents' - just pipe down & be thankful it's no worse!!

I would apologise to your daughter in law for the sake of your son and the grandchildren.

Troy Donahue from the film "Summer Place" ..

It is masculine unique name ..

Not sure of its origins however, could be Greek or British.

Son and DIL named their first child before it was even discussed with us. Second child they were arguing over a name. I made a few suggestions that neither of them liked. Also suggested both put names in a hat and pick one out. Then I stayed out of it completely as it was up to them. A week later baby had a name so all good.
DD had a name picked out for her 1st born from a TV program when she was 14, and her first child had that name.
TBH I don't really like any of my 3 DGCs names but it's not my choice.
I think the OP is way out of order, suggesting nicknames family names and wanting different names. No wonder her daughter is keeping her away How rude and hurtful just when she's coping with a new baby.

Does anyone remember the book First Names First by Leslie Dunkling?
He said he wrote it partly because of his own rather awkward name.
It's fascinating and traces origins and uses of names from 17th century both in Britain and the USA.
I had a copy but I suspect DD
borrowed it and never gave it back.
😅😂

Talk about entitled! If ths was Facebook I would say this was rage bait or a troll. Only the parents get to choose their child's name.

They obviously didn't tell you before others because they knew what your reaction would be.
You seem obsessed with having a say in the baby's name and passing down old fashioned names from your family.
It is the parent's who choose a childs name - not the grandparents. You need to let go!

Our adopted grandchildren kept the names their birth family gave them, neither of which their parents would have chosen. Makes no difference to how much we love them.

I have an unusual first name (never met another) and have spent a long life time of having to spell it. Definitely not ideal.

I was not keen on the name my son and his partner named my granddaughter. Her other grandmother shortens it and that sounds even worse. I keep my mouth shut. It is not up to me what they call her. I love my granddaughter and have go used to her name. One little bonus, her second name is the same as mine.

GrannySomerset

Our adopted grandchildren kept the names their birth family gave them, neither of which their parents would have chosen. Makes no difference to how much we love them.

I have an unusual first name (never met another) and have spent a long life time of having to spell it. Definitely not ideal.

Well done to the parents, I think it must be so confusing to a child when so much is already going on to have their name changed as well.

Grammaretto

I don't know why Troy doesn't appeal to me Rula. It has associations I suppose. It sounds American.
It's a place-name.
It would be fine for a pet.
As you say "horses for courses"
I like unusual names and old fashioned names too but Troy is neither.

Well, it's certainly old-fashioned! 😁

Troy dates from about 3,000BC.

Frenchgalinspain

Troy Donahue from the film "Summer Place" ..

It is masculine unique name ..

Not sure of its origins however, could be Greek or British.

I don't think we should be dogmatic about uniquely male/female names.
What about those which can be either eg Evelyn?
Or those which (I assume) originated as surnames - Kelly (Grace Kelly) , Tracey/Tracy (Spencer Tracy) or the most memorable of all John Wayne's actual birth name - Marion !

About 30 years ago I taught English at a convent in HK The girls were all fluent in our language as well as their native Cantonese and were required to take on an English name of their own choosing. Many chose the name May which sounded like the Chinese word for beautiful
In my class I had Snowflake, Balcony and Cinderella ( whose brother was, indeed Hitler)
The mother superior told me of one girl who turned up at 11 with absolutely no idea of what English name she would choose. The nun pointed to a bookcase full of books in the English language and suggested the girl open any one of those She would surely find a name that appealed

She did.... almost immediately.. It was a biology book and the name that sprang out at her was Vagina

I hope she was persuaded that Virginia might be a good alternative!

All of this angst makes me happy that I did not float any names prior to birth so that people would think they could weigh in- just announced it when the baby arrived.

Mind you my parents told everyone they were going to call me Ian ... that didn't work so well.

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All of this angst makes me happy that I did not float any names prior to birth so that people would think they could weigh in- just announced it when the baby arrived.

Mind you my parents told everyone they were going to call me Ian ... that didn't work so well.

😁
Alexander turned out to be Alexandra!

You may not like it Amber Green but it's time to eat humble pie. It's not important what the back is called... What is important is that his Grandparents love him for who he is and is part of his and his parents lives. Kahil Gibran says in his book 'The Prophet ' that your children should live the life they want to live and not the life that you want then to live. Wise words Methinks. Maybe a really gesture like naming a star after your grandson would soften the hurt felt by your daughter. If you can't face naming a star Troy then perhaps something meaningful like beloved boy and his date of birth. Make your peace soon....life is too short.

When our first baby was due, we chose the name Emma for her. However, when she arrived, we looked at her beautiful little face and decided she just wasn’t an ‘Emma’. I have no idea why as it’s a lovely name. She was named Alexandra in the end, Alex for short.
My maternal great grandfather was the Mayor of Truro in 1920, and the day my mother was born, he was naming a town near there called Ferristown. So she was named Ferris, and she hated it all her life.

Crossstitchfan we had two names for our first daughter as " possibles" before she was born (and two possibles for a boy).
She looked like neither of the "girls" names.

After that we thought we'd see our babies first - as clearly naming them was harder than we had supposed!