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Feeling annoyed today.

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kircubbin2000 Thu 08-May-25 11:25:29

Not really my problem but I'm annoyed at the way my ex is being used.
He's always been an outgoing neighbourly type but one of his neighbours is using him as a free taxi service.
He called with me for coffee this morning but before the kettle had boiled his phone rang and the neighbour wanted a lift to a town 10 miles away to do a message.(He has his own car).
He told him he would be round in 10 minutes and left.
My son has told me this man asks him for lifts all the time and his dad doesn't like to refuse.Its stressing him.
Rant over. I know there's nothing I can do.

mabon1 Sun 11-May-25 14:43:09

You cannot control your ex, and if it's not a problem to him, then just keep your nose out of his business.

Gogo84 Sun 11-May-25 15:28:40

His wife doesn't like him driving!! Why doesn't she drive him then

jobieP Sun 11-May-25 16:08:29

Perhaps he made that up about his wife.

Delila Sun 11-May-25 16:16:27

crazyH

Kircubbin - I’m amazed that you have a good relationship with your ex. I also admire you for that

Why, is it unusual?

Littlebea02 Sun 11-May-25 16:45:19

Perhaps it would be a good idea to talk with your ex because he may be enjoying this responsibility who knows. You could let him know that you felt someone was taking advantage of him and ask him to please talk with you about it what he thinks etc.?

Lallykins Sun 11-May-25 20:02:48

If he is your Ex, then there's a reason he is your Ex. Be friends, of course, but whatever he does, that's down to him. If he prefers to drop everything, even a coffee with you for some one else to give them lift, instead of saying no, and keeping your company, then that's not nice. But his choice. He ain't gonna change.

crazyH Sun 11-May-25 20:16:45

Yes Delila - in my world it is …

Macadia Mon 12-May-25 05:08:12

If all of us worried about our ex's behavior, what a strange world this would be.

Pippa22 Mon 12-May-25 09:59:35

Maybe your ex was looking for an excuse to leave you. I’m sorry I put that but might he have arranged the call from his demanding neighbour to get out of the meet up with you ?

win Mon 12-May-25 11:54:40

Why are YOU annoyed your ex can do what he likes, it sounds like you are keen to have more to do with your ex or are you just interfering in something that is not your business at all?
You can't control an ex

kircubbin2000 Mon 12-May-25 15:49:00

Pippa22

Maybe your ex was looking for an excuse to leave you. I’m sorry I put that but might he have arranged the call from his demanding neighbour to get out of the meet up with you ?

What? He called unexpectedly so no.
What a strange idea!