A Touch Too Sensitive ?

I would have said “I’m sorry I have just been floored by my friend’s sad news. Due to this upset, I could not cope with any more demands on my time just now”. It is very draining on you energy levels when loved ones aren’t well.

Tell her what you told us, your skill set doesnt include alterations. Any anyway, you are far too busy with supporting your friend.

Astitchintime

Do the dress repair and charge a princely sum……then donate the money to a brain cancer charity.

Great idea?

BlueBelle

Blimey you could buy a new pair of jeans for that Astitchintime

But only cheap nasty ones made by slave labour in China or children in BanglaDesh. Buying “disposable” clothes damages the poor people who are forced to make them and the planet we live on. Don't buy so much. Buy ethically.

A bit overly sensitive but not a nice way of her asking either

Nashma...what a rude comment !

nahsma

BlueBelle

Blimey you could buy a new pair of jeans for that Astitchintime

But only cheap nasty ones made by slave labour in China or children in BanglaDesh. Buying “disposable” clothes damages the poor people who are forced to make them and the planet we live on. Don't buy so much. Buy ethically.

You need to get your facts right Nashma I am a great advocate to NOT buy off Temu Shein and the like, you need to read some of my comments in other threads

I do not buy off these sites so you may like to take your uncalled judgement of me back

BlueBelle

nahsma

BlueBelle

Blimey you could buy a new pair of jeans for that Astitchintime

But only cheap nasty ones made by slave labour in China or children in BanglaDesh. Buying “disposable” clothes damages the poor people who are forced to make them and the planet we live on. Don't buy so much. Buy ethically.

You need to get your facts right Nashma I am a great advocate to NOT buy off Temu Shein and the like, you need to read some of my comments in other threads

I do not buy off these sites so you may like to take your uncalled judgement of me back

Do tell where you can buy jeans for £20.

For well under £20 , many well known jeans brands can be bought in good charity shops, and our local peacocks sell for under £20!

Have you offered to alter anything for her in the past? If not ,then definitely say no,sorry, I don’t do that sort of work. The insensitivity!

I think she was softening you up by asking about the person who is sick. Of course, you can direct her to the place in your area that does alterations, because - aren't you too upset and busy, right now, to even think of perhaps ruining a prom dress?

I'd ignore the request to do work for her for free. Simply don't reply

Concerning sweat shop jeans: in online discussions posters often write something tangential to the main topic. It's ridiculous to call it "rude " behaviour.

I apologise to BlueBelle . That was not what you actually said.

I am interested in the unwritten back story of your relationships with neighbours, Aura. You seem to be very kind to neighbours, and I wish more neighbourhoods contained people as kind.

You ex- neighbour clearly has her own problem with probably stressed teenager and broken zip in a prom dress. Trivial to you, but probably more significant to her. She might not realise quite how much your friend’s diagnosis has affected you practically and emotionally. It is a bit thoughtless, but I wouldn’t take it too badly. It sounds like you handled it well in the circumstances.

Create a hefty price list for repairs, it's income.