AIBU Husbands new car

Is your husband able to drive this car? If he is then why can you not sit in the back seat and let your friend sit in the front? And you still have the old car, which you said you had sold? Or do you have another car as well?
I am confused.

Truddles

Don’t be daft! It’s your husband’s dream. It’s putting this fat woman’s convenience before your husband’s dream. Just tell her you can’t give her a lift in the new car as your husband can’t ride in it comfortably if she’s in it. It’ll save your suspension, too.

This is a very unkind comment. There are a myriad of reasons for people being overweight or obese, especially as we get older. It is certainly not all down to stuffing our faces with cream cakes l
Back to the issue at hand. If the OP and her husband are happy with the present arrangement then it is not a problem. Otherwise, as others have stated, all that needs to be said is that her husband has bought a sports car, which has been his lifelong ambition, and wants to use it as often as possible. Sadly, there is really only room for two people to sit comfortably so you are unable to give her a lift in future.

Just say hey, we're going to be using the new car on that night now, and we'll both be sitting in the front coming home.
You're welcome to come with us if you don't mind sitting in the back. Try it out and see what you think.

She’s the driver

Shame the OP hasn’t returned.

Have I missed something here? Why can't you use your "everyday" car if it's just you & her going out on your regular outing? Then no-one would have to struggle to get in the backseat.
& you will find lots of other times to use your new convertible - congratulations on going for it!

Goodness, if that is the only thing you have to worry about, that you can't use your nice new car instead of the other one for one day a week for a friend, you are very lucky. First world problem.

You buy a car for your own use. Not so you can take your lovely neighbour out for a joy ride. Maybe ask her if you can drive her car. To give her a.lift. See what she says

But no.o e would buy a different car just to give a neighbour the odd lift. No.mattwr how friendly the neighbours were.

I simply don’t understand how three of you fitted into the 2- seater? Did she sit on your husband’s knee?

Some friend ! ! Tell her to get lost.

Jaxjacky

If it’s a good friend I’d carry on in the other car, it’s only one night a week, a friendship is more important than going out in a new car to me.

My thoughts exactly.

JoJo60 came new, made her comment, and promptly disappeared.
What a waste of space! Why do some pratts do this?
She needs to get a life!

Probably DH wants to have a drink, which is why his wife drives home.

And maybe they always used to go in the ‘old’ car, not the 2 seater, but now he wants to keep using the new car.

If the neighbour can drive herself, perhaps that’s what she should be doing.

Why should the OP or her DH feel obliged to sit in the back?

(Why should they sit in the back?)Because she is reluctant to refuse her friend a lift.
I am still confused.
Is the husband unable to drive this new car which is his pride and joy?

Just tell her.

Crossstitchfan

JoJo60 came new, made her comment, and promptly disappeared.
What a waste of space! Why do some pratts do this?
She needs to get a life!

If I had posted that load of twaddle I'd have disappeared too

OldFrill

Crossstitchfan

JoJo60 came new, made her comment, and promptly disappeared.
What a waste of space! Why do some pratts do this?
She needs to get a life!

If I had posted that load of twaddle I'd have disappeared too

Having said that JOJO90 has been posting/participating for a few years. Maybe she's out for a long spin with her weighty pal.

I'm in the "use the old car" camp.
I don't see this as a problem.
Take your lovely new one when she's not with you.

eazybee

(Why should they sit in the back?)Because she is reluctant to refuse her friend a lift.
I am still confused.
Is the husband unable to drive this new car which is his pride and joy?

No, he drives the new car, but not on the way home, the wife drives then, I surmised he has a drink and she doesn’t.

He can’t sit in the back, hips and knees problems, neither can the friend who is too large to get in.

The friend is a driver, so could drive herself, and perhaps offer them a lift if she has always been taken by them in the past?

DH could sit with her in the front, wife can pop in the back, problem solved.

Why not just turn up in the new car. She will see she can’t get in it and take her own.

Thank you for all your replies. We only go out one night a week and using the new car would make it a bit special for us. The friend goes out multiple nights in her own car with other friends of hers. We only started sharing lifts because she persuaded us to go to this particular club, and one of her ways of persuading people is to go and pick them up so they can't say no. We then started taking it in turns, that then evolved into us doing the driving as we thought her driving was erratic and we didn't feel safe. Nothing will stop her doing what she wants to do though, she is very stubborn. We have decided to give her the choice, and if she feels uncomfortable in the back then it's up to her to take her own car.

Excellent solution.
Good idea.

Crossstitchfan

JoJo60 came new, made her comment, and promptly disappeared.
What a waste of space! Why do some pratts do this?
She needs to get a life!

An apology is warranted here.

I don’t think so. It took her such a long time to reply that I was justified in thinking she had done a runner. How long was I supposed to wait before wondering where she had got to?

JOJO60

Thank you for all your replies. We only go out one night a week and using the new car would make it a bit special for us. The friend goes out multiple nights in her own car with other friends of hers. We only started sharing lifts because she persuaded us to go to this particular club, and one of her ways of persuading people is to go and pick them up so they can't say no. We then started taking it in turns, that then evolved into us doing the driving as we thought her driving was erratic and we didn't feel safe. Nothing will stop her doing what she wants to do though, she is very stubborn. We have decided to give her the choice, and if she feels uncomfortable in the back then it's up to her to take her own car.

I think your ‘friend’ is a nightmare and you and your husband must have the patience of a saint to put up with her. In your position, I would definitely use your new car. She can do what she likes!