What about the other grand parents ? 😡

I can imagine a scenario where another grandparent loaned her old banger to her GC then the other grandparents swooped in and offered a newer car to be met with indignation and cries of 'well of course they have the money'. Maybe the other grandparents don't want to step on your toes by offering a car.

You need your car. Your GCs are young and much more able to get about than you. My 22 year old
GS had to get two buses and a train to work every day. He would not have been happy to leave me without my car.
The other GPs may think it's making them less independent by giving them a car.

Personally I would never lend my car out to my grandchildren, on the basis that if they have an accident not only is my insurance affected,and my no claims. But also I would then be without a car.
However, we did ensure that our children were able to drive at 17, and bought their first cars. We are in a fortunate position and will help our grandchildren too. But what the other grandparents choose to do is entirely up to them, you shouldn't be criticising them for their choices.
And if my grandchild was speeding and driving carelessly I wouldn't be helping them at all.

IS this the same grandson?
Do we actually know?

And why aren't the two adult grandchildren sharing the car they have?

Do you know why the GPs have 3 cars? Maybe they love having a car collection , or they are expensive models they wouldn't lend to a young driver. It’s entirely up to them. Don't criticise others choices.

I wondered that vegansrock.
My mother-in-law's friend has three cars and he lives on his own.
One is a "show car" (classic type) one is his "runaround" and the other, classic but less precious, is only driven in good weather.

You didn't have to lend them your car you chose to and the other grandparents for whatever reason choose not to and you don't know their reasons for this. Quite frankly I think that lending your car in an emergency situation is a different matter to lending it on a long term basis to a grandchild of that age. They are working and should be able to sort out their own transport to work problems, is there no public transport available? Can one child get to work early in order to let the other drive on to their own place of work?

Tell them to buy their own cars.

I’m divorced and on my own. So is my daughter. She has 2 grown-up children, 22 and 23, both of whom I adore….Couple of years ago, she bought them a little car, to share. Worked fine, until now.
Both have started jobs which ofcourse involves driving to and from work, in 2 directions.

I think the above sentences says it all. You adore your grandchildren so let them get away with anything!!

There is nothing of course about them HAVING to DRIVE to work there are other ways of getting to work and if there really is not, they should have thought about that before taking the jobs.

They are both very much adult people, let them behave as such as sort their own problems out, if you keep bailing them out they will never learn to manage. It has absolutely nothing to do with the other grand parents nor has it anything to do with you and your daughter living alone. It sounds to me like you are both trying to make up for the fact that their father is not around. I hope you don't criticise their father to your GC like you do on here!!

It is the same poster as the speeding penalty thread !
Honestly crazyH you must get your car back immediately.

You were kind enough to loan it to the grandchildren and this is how one repaid you by speeding and inferring that you should ‘take the hit’

It's your car and you really need it.

Let them worry about how how they are going to get to work.

And don't lend it them again.

You need your car back! My grandparents never gave me a car. I had to make my own travel arrangements.
If necessary, can’t you do a three-way share/collect from work/take turns?

I never gave my kids cars...I wpuld loan a car to my grandkids....they need to sort out their own arrangements...why are you mad with other GP 🤷‍♀️

Your grandson has not only proved that he is untrustworthy, by not treating your car carefully, but also in expecting you to lie for him and take the points. That equals a gaol sentence for you both.
Get your car back immediately, and let him find his own way to work.
He might make more of an effort to save for his own car once he realises how hard life is without one.

Of course it's not just the grandson, is it... his sister should be sharing their ^shared car with him.

Am I the only one who thinks that the idea of a shared car is bound to fail and not realistic?

It must be horrendously expensive for the OP too.

I can’t imagine what the insurance must be for two young adults in their early twenties, one of whom has a speeding ticket. Over a thousand I should think.

I hope the OP has told her insurance company and isn’t just taking a chance.