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Grandparents name issues

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Bunnny Sat 13-Jun-26 18:50:14

I am really angry and annoyed by this. The partial grandmother keeps referring to us as gran and and grandad and then using our first names on the end. I have asked her not to do this and also told her son to ask her to stop.
She does not listen and so it continues and my daughter says what the problem it’s not such a big issue. But I think it is and we feel it is disrespectful to us both. Now their children are starting to us this and we are having to correct them which I don’t think is fair and also confusing for them. Also she just likes to be known has nanna.

Kartush Thu 18-Jun-26 02:32:29

Kids work it out for themselves, one set of grandkids call us granny and grandpa because my husband reminded them of grandpa pig from peppa pig 😂 the other set call us grandma and papa even though we are actually their great grandparents. When referring to my daughter , their actual grandmother they will call her grandma suzy but when talking to her she is just grandma.so much fuss about a name

Calendargirl Thu 18-Jun-26 06:52:23

SaxonGrace

I’m confused by this, are you saying that she calls you for instance Grandma Joan, or Nanna Emily, what do you want to be called. Mr and Mrs Whatever ?

No, I think the OP just wants to be called ‘Grandma’ or whatever, without the Christian name being tacked on.

And it’s more a case of the other GP blatantly ignoring her wishes which is extremely annoying and frankly rude.

jocork Thu 18-Jun-26 08:36:59

My grandchildren have decided for themselves how to distinguish between us as both of us wanted to be 'Granny'. I did say I would be something else if it was confusing but my son said there would be no problem - we'd be Granny ..(surname). In fact we have become Granny Mac (Mac being the name they call the corresponding grandad - not sure why, but maybe due to miss-hearing his name which is Nick!) and I became Granny Bekah as my DD Bekah, their Auntie, is who they associate with me since in the early days we often visited together! I guess it may change in future but I like the way the children work it out for themselves based on their understanding of the family relationships. Thankfully we all get on really well and are not competitive so everyone is happy.

MrsMatt Thu 18-Jun-26 14:18:57

My parents divorced and eventually married my new partners. When my chilcren were born they had 3 sets of grandparents. It was easier for them to have Nana Val, Nana Jo, Nana Liz, Poppa Tom and Poppa Les.

With all the divorces and new partners in our family it was very easy for young children to get confused as to why three different Grandmothers were all named Nana and two Grandfathers were both named Poppa.

They even called my Grandparents Nana Kit and Poppa H [Harold].

To be honest I didn't see a problem with it as long as they were polite and respectful.

M0nica Thu 18-Jun-26 20:51:39

My children evolved different names for their two grandmothers. One was called grandma and the other was called grannima.

When I became a grandmother I thought it would be nice to continue this tradition and I would be called grannima and my companion grandmother would be grandma.

But things didn't work as planned, both children insisted on calling us grandma.

In fact, not a lot different to the OP, except I cannot say it bothered me at all, now and again I have a smidgeon of regret, but talk to people and so often it is the children who decide what they want to call their grandparents, not the grandparents.