Use of words and younger generation

Umm. I don’t think you are being unreasonable. Just seeing and saying things how they were for you and others see and say the same.

How rude and ridiculous that young woman was! Spindrift
Sounds like she is the one with the confused attitude, not you.

What I hate is the use of the F word by all and sundry. I still cringe when I hear it not only on buses and the street but by young parents and on the radio.

language is always changing and meaning of words do so also.
So words like 'Cool', 'Gay', etc have changed their meaning, so why not others?

I am now in my 80's, but can remember my Dad saying that at times he thought I was using a foreign language when I was in my teens.

When you watch QI, they often show many words that have completely died out of our language. They get a laugh out of their panels trying to work out what they ever meant.

Nothing confused about it - just the way of language development and change.

What rude young women you have encountered. Weird with it. I haven’t come across anything like it and if I did I would probably get very huffy. They both sound as though they have mental problems.

No, not changing vocabulary, more that some parents believe in never condemning their children for their actions, as in 'we never tell him what to so, we always negotiate' as a parent told the Reception teacher when the child refused to join the class to go into the Hall, or the father whose tiresome elder son was attacking his younger brother; he squatted down in the middle of the bookshop blocking access to the bookshelves behind, and cuddled the bully then told him to breathe deeply, that's right, in and out until you feel better, I know you didn't mean to hurt him.

I wonder if the second woman, while experiencing “dark” times in her life, looked upon them as a beautiful experience and was learning from them. How odd. As for naughty, well she can call it disregulated if she chooses to, it’s just a different adjective and I think she was being a bit pompous.

You are not being unreasonable SpinDriftCoastal. It would seem that certain younger people are ultra sensitive and looking for a chance to react to ‘words’ and to strongly voice their personal opinions. Nothing wrong with the words ‘naughty’ and ‘dark’. 🙄

Thankfully, in real life I dont come across the op situation much.

But even then, I have just about had enough of that type of thing.
I am ready to turn things around[assuming I can think quick enough].
I am ready to say, "well I dont think much of your attitude" or something like that. "things can work both ways".

Things do work both ways, and the women concerned may be posting somewhere about an older woman who used terms like 'naughty' and 'dark' as negatives.

I don't think there is a need to correct strangers' use of language (outside of extremes) but times change, and some of the words used by my grandparents' generation are entirely unacceptable now (IMO rightly).

I would forget about it, SpinDriftCoastal. It's just different perspectives, I think.

Doodledog

Things do work both ways, and the women concerned may be posting somewhere about an older woman who used terms like 'naughty' and 'dark' as negatives.

I don't think there is a need to correct strangers' use of language (outside of extremes) but times change, and some of the words used by my grandparents' generation are entirely unacceptable now (IMO rightly).

I would forget about it, SpinDriftCoastal. It's just different perspectives, I think.

Yes, I agree with you. And an interesting perspective. I had not thought of the use of negatives. Re: grandparents I remember the use of some words which would make us cringe now and also some of the words used in literature of the first half of the 20th century. As they say, language is a living entity and maybe those young women will be corrected in decades to come by the next generation.

They could have corrected you nicely rather than let loose a diatribe.

If they just shared their views with you that’s fine, but being rude to you, in front of their children, isn’t.

Our so sons best friend and wife have to children who are brought with zero rules and regulations, if they decide they don’t want to go to school they don’t, if they don’t want to sit at a table and eat they don’t etc.

Our son still goes to stay with them as he is so close to his friend, our DIL refuses to go as she says the home is chaos and the children are ill mannered little ………!