Husband and his dog

congradulations to you and yours at this lovely time well done

Hello defnot now definitenanny Many Congratulations on the safe arrival of your first grandchild Enjoy

Great news; common sense prevailed [even in a man ]! Thanks for the update.

defnotnanny wonderful news. Hello Henry, well done dear husband for doing the right thing...and a pat for your dog.

Congratulations on Henry's arrival and I just wanted to say I am so glad the dog issue resolved itself. I am the doggiest person around but our dear mutt goes into kennels reguarly if I/we are visiting DD, away for a long day or overnight and even when DD and family come here or when GS comes to stay for the weekend. Fortunately she doesn't seem to mind too much (although I feel like a traitor) but SIL won't have a dog in the house and even DD who was brought up with dogs is wary of a dog around her babies. Personally it makes life a bit easier, if more expensive, one less complication! Kennels these days can be like a holiday home for dogs and you never know when you might need one in an emergency, so I would recommend looking around either for a really nice one or investigating one of those house/dog sitting services for future reference.

Congratulations, defnot! Welcome to the world, little Henry!

Such wonderful news - congratulations and glad it all worked out well for you

to proud grandma, parents and Henry. Congratulations

Congratulations and hello Henry

Oh good! Glad it all worked out for you. And hello to Henry!

Oh how wonderful! so glad everything went well. Congrats to all

Congratulaions defnotnanny, enjoy your new grandson.

Congratulations defnotnanny

Just a brief update following all your very helpful comments regarding my husband and his dog. All has ended well. In fact he decided himself that bringing the dog was not a good idea and has remained at home with the dog. My first grandchild, Henry, was born this morning, weighing 8lbs 14oz and I was thrilled to be a co-birth partner with my son-in-law. Husband will meet his new step-grandson at Christmas. A very happy ending for all concerned and thanks to everyone for their advice and suggestions!

I always used to have cocker spaniels before I switched to whippets, and my last one was yappy; she drove me mad and as she got old, blind and deaf she got worse. I had my first spaniel before I had children,and she was treated very much as a dog, I never picked her up and cuddled her etc because I'd heard of spaniels that had been treated like children and they became very jealous when actual children did take their place. I made a huge fuss of her when I had my first child and have to say she was the perfect family pet. I then had another spaniel who was equally adorable, but bred a puppy from her that was the yappy one. Since the debacle with my sick dog 5 years ago I hadn't left the country till this weekend; her replacement comes with us on holiday [annoyingly she suffers from travel sickness]. This weekend was my first weekend away from her [she's 4 now]. I can't really afford both the holiday and the dog sitting costs, so it's all getting a bit complicated. I can see why you and your husband are so fond of the dog, though; I still melt whenever I see a cocker spaniel. My grandson is actually scared of dogs, which is sad, as my current whippet is the gentlest creature, but even if he wasn't scared I would never leave him alone with her. I did crate train this dog which means that I can take her places where she can be kept in her own space when neccessary. I wouldn't be without a dog but do feel terribly tied down sometimes. I've just returned from Paris and am so in love with the place that I can't wait to return; there are so many places that we didn't have time to see, but we walked down the Champs Elysee's on Saturday night to Place do la Concorde with the Eiffell Tower lit up in the distance and I really don't want to be here at this moment in time....Bon vacances..and good luck with your grandchild!

crimson ..... husband has one granddaughter of his own and in fairness to de dawg, he has always been fine with her, but doesn't see her that often. He has always barked a lot and is getting worse as he gets older. My husband did try some of the deterrents you suggested but to no avail. He is a cocker spaniel and I understand that this breed of dog can be quite needy. I am very fond of the dog myself and have always humoured my husband's attachment to him, but on this occasion I am standing firm. My absolute priority is my daughter. I agree that something that smells of my husband can help (he has a vast selection of manky old t-shirts!). We always have to drive anywhere on holiday so that the dawg can come too. He has travelled extensively all over Europe! On the occasions when I can't take enough time off work to do this, husband drives with the dog and I have to fly separately (no such thing as a cheap holiday in our household!) In fact this evening we are off on an overnight ferry to France for four days and dog will be coming too!! I hope you manage to organise some happy arrangements for your dog.

Gosh; just had a slightly similar situation myself, but only in that I will no longer kennel my dog and it is tying me down [the last time I went abroad my dog would have died had she been in kennels; thankfully it was the first time I'd used a pet sitter]. I understand how your husband feels about his dog. Don't want to pry but does he have children/grandchildren of his own? And, could your daughter's confinement be something that is making him unsure of his relationship with you? If so, you might need to tread carefully with him emotionally. Anyway,as Baggy said, the starting point is that the dog can't go to your daughters.You say he barks a lot when your husband isn't with him. Has he always been like it or is it that, with old age he's becoming blind, deaf or both? Have you tried using a dap diffuser/ collar/ spray when your husband isn't around to calm him down [I swear by them]. I'm actually looking into pet sitters for my dog [the girl I used before isn't suitable], but I don't want a 'live in' person, just someone who comes over twice a day [it actually doesn't cost much more than used kennels anyway]. The agency I'm going to use specialise in 'problem dogs' as well..this is for @ £7 an hour. A sheet or something that smells of your husband, a dap diffuser and a good dog sitter and you should be ok, and you'll need to use them in the future anyway for future visits. No one can exoect to take an old grumpy dog to someone's home, especially with a new baby around. I'm sorry to rabbit on like this, but I was a wreck last week trying to sort out what to do with my beloved dog so I sort of know how your husband feels.

I think supernana's suggestion of a pet sitter is a good solution to this problem,but maybe your DHs work commitment's may not allow him to go with you as you stated,I would never dream of taking Barney our rescued JR anywhere near a new baby as he is a tempremental little so and so and whilst we love him he does not come first in the pecking order.Enjoy the time with your new grandchild when the happy time arrive's and get ready for emotion's you never knew existed.x

Hi defnotnanny and welcome to our lovely online community. Reading these posts, there's not much more to be said really; Baggy once again has hit the nail on the head. Lovely that your grandchild will arrive in time for a very special first Christmas - enjoy.

Welcome defnotnanny First grandchild is a great experience, do not let anyone spoil it for you least of all a grumpy old dog (the animal not the DH)

defnotnanny - what a lovely considerate lady you are!
Your hubby needs to appreciate the situation you are in and needs to give you some respect and consideration in return.
Whilst you fully understand his commitment to the dog, (and very commendable that commitment is), he needs to recognise you have a commitment to your daughter and grandchild.
As the dog has been aggressive before I would be very concerned about taking it anywhere near a wriggling 'squeaky toy' of a new born baby.
If hubby really insists on not getting a dog-sitter or using kennels etc then he must stay at home!
Please do not allow him to prevent you being with your daughter on such a marvellous occasion as the arrival of this precious child.
Apart from what your daughter has been through it will be your first grandchild and something you will never ever get over!
I now have three and eight-ninths grandchildren! Obviously I adore them all and the arrivals of second, third and soon-to-arrive fourth were just as amazing, but the first is just special somehow.
I really hope hubby will understand and you will be there for the momentous occasion.
Don't feel you are on GN under false pretences - as someone else said - the child exists, just hasn't made an appearance yet!
God bless you all and let us know when baby arrives!
Loads and loads of love and hugs are on the way!

HildaW ..... I have elderly dad to sort out as well as the dog for the end of November! In an ideal world elderly dad would perhaps mind elderly dog, but sadly my dear dad isn't keen on dogs. I'm sure it will all work out in the end and thanks everyone for your words of wisdom and greenmossgiel I will update in due course.

P.S.S. We have very elderly cats and have found, without too much effort. catteries that cater for elderly cats. Any good kennels sould be able to offer a similar service, to be quite honest its easier than finding respite places for elderly humans!

Dog in kennels.....no question! P.S. hope all goes well with baby!

defnotnanny - you just enjoy the run-up to the wee one being born! We're all looking forward to hearing more from you!