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Attending funerals?

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grannot Tue 14-May-13 21:46:09

My Uncle died last week and his funeral is a week tomorrow but I'm undecided whether I should attend or not. I haven't actually seen him for 20+ years since my sisters wedding. This is for no particular reason just the fact that I live 100+ miles away from him and his family and we just grew apart.

But as a child he was very close to both me, my Mum and sisters. My Mum and Dad divorced when my sisters and I were very young and my Uncle basically became a father figure in our lives and was very special but by the time he married and had children , we were grown up and starting families of our own and we drifted apart.

I've always felt it was wrong to attend funerals for people you have not been close too and I'm pulled in two directions over this. I will of course send flowers but should I attend?

Any thoughts or advice please,

Eloethan Thu 23-May-13 12:15:41

That's lovely grannot.

HildaW Thu 23-May-13 13:05:18

grannot, so glad for you. flowers