I'm so sorry for you and your family, the sudden death of a child or young person is unbelievably painful. I'm sure you and your family will decide for the best re the children attending her funeral. There is no easy answer.
You and your family are at the start of a long grieving process. My thoughts are with you all
Lack of public toilets in towns.
Passports not in the drawer I always keep them in. Turning the place upside down.