Introductions - a thing of the past?

I was a cripplingly shy child due to a neglectful upbringing and have never been an attention seeker i hope.

Those days...? I think a great many of us went to school in the early 60s. Never heard of the staff punching pupils, though...

That is the "It never did me any harm to be beaten daily by sadists and fed on bread and water, so that is how I am treating my children" argument.

Elegran I was not aware that it is a crime to refer to another thread so I wont be reporting you. I had not mentioned the meet up before now as I thought it was already arranged so I did not have any choice in the matter. I was reading through the posts (I often do without adding to them) and started to think that maybe I should add my opinion as I am entitled to. I think that everyone on here thinks we should all be of the same opinion. If you don't fit in or agree with the majority then you are ignored or get a nasty remark. A balanced debate is healthy and surely that's what everyone wants.
Also why did you not reply to the 'meet up' thread, why reply on this one?
Maybe Friday night already on the tipple .lol

I feel sorry for the elderly mum!

Actually, Silverfish, you did suggest meeting up at Winters Gibbet near Eglingham on that meet-up thread earlier this month. No takers so I suppose you were miffed.

I don't know about anyone else having been on the tipple...

Ana, I was p...taking. No one would want to go to Winter Gibbet.( well apart from me but then I love remote places).
There are some lovely country pubs with scenery to die for and I wondered why someone would go to the city when we can go there anytime.

I replied on here as well as to your other grumpy reply because you made me so annoyed. You were doing more than not being a shrinking violet, you were giving a good impression of a healthy bed of stinging nettles.

Anyone tried nettle tea, very soothing. the real stuff not dried crap from a shop.

I believe some masochists use bunches of it to whip themselves with. Only the tough ones, of course.

I prefer to drink it or leave it growing high so any intruders will get a surprise if they come into my garden.

Should have added I cut all my nettle down today as DGD was playing in garden. So no nettle tea today have to buy some crap from shop.

From your previous posts I would have thought you would have left them there, and let her learn to avoid them.

"Speak roughly to your little boy
And scold him when he sneezes
He only does it to annoy
Because he knows it teases"

I would never be like that, my little dgd, is the most important person in my life. Im digging out an expensive rose next in case she pricks herself. Don't judge people so harshly, Im annoyed at attitudes to meet ups and I don't suffer fools gladly but I love my little one and im really soft with her. Will teach her not to be shy though.

Try a bit harder to recognise irony, Silverfish.

Isn't it just basic humanity to try to.put a person at ther ease? However frustrating shyness may be in some situations, you can't cure it by being intolerant. But you can help a person to build up their self confidnce by kindness and consideration. I think the way your school responded to you and others was appalling and very damaging. If your little DGD encountered such treatment I hope you would be bangingon their door!

What attitudes to meetup sare there to be annoyed at Silverfish ? Every meetup is different, it is a group of people who arrange to meet at a place and time that suits them, because they want to have one another's company. There is not a GN department planning a series of identikit gatherings in identikit places for the same clones each time.

It is not something that there can be a universal attitude to. Your attitude is that meetups are get-togethers of the idle rich who don't have to work and don't want you there with them. Others have different attitudes. I have been to several meetups. some were in expensive restaurants, some were for a coffee in a cafe, some in other people's houses - one was in mine. I don't recall anyone being a rich layabout or wanting to exclude anyone else at all.

Dogs in mangers eating sour grapes?

Soutra is right. Your school was an awful one Silver to try and cure shyness by such a rough way, take it from all of us on here, that shyness is not a way of attracting attention. Now, there are some people [I grant you] that always take a back seat and want to let others do everything for them, drive them places [even when they can drive] and are content to let you go to the bar to order their coffee /drink/cake [and pay for it]I know a couple of people like that, but this is not to be confused with shyness, basically it's just selfishness.Shyness ranges from the mild to the crippling.If it's mild, sometimes having to do something [and managing to do it] can help you with confidence, is this what you really mean Silver?The couple of people I know are not shy [at all!] they simply prefer others to do things for them.

On introductions, if I am with somebody, and a friend [of theirs] comes over to chat, I wait a bit, and if no introduction is forthcoming I simply say 'hello, I'm rosesarered.' If my DD didn't introduce me [she does] I would then say 'hello, I'm rosesarered, mini-rosesarered's mother'.I think younger people are not so hot on introductions as we are.That's all it is.

Trying to cure genuine shyness that way is like trying to cure a stammer by shouting at people to "Spit it out, man"

I'd say that school was a nest of sadists, breeding sadism into those who survived. Those who did not survive sank without trace. Natural selection? Survival of the fittest? Nature red in tooth and claw?

we were hit with the ruler, slapped on the legs, poked with a finger on arms and shouted at if we so much as whispered to one another. I am so glad that todays kids don't have that to deal with. It was not considered cruel in those days.
I think that shyness to the point of crippling their everyday life is a mental illness.
Maybe working with the public has made me the way I am. I was called pushy by someone and Im not really. I just like a peaceful life. Everyone must stick up for their rights, I taught my daughter this but never to fight physically. She uses clever words to assert herself as I do.
What on earth was the original subject of this post, cant remember.

I remember having to go to collect a ruler from another teacher so that my teacher could use it to hit my friend. I felt awful, especially as it broke as she brought it down on his hand. i had to take to two pieces back!
I was an assertive child and try to be now, rather than aggressive.

a typically meandering GN thread!!!

Originally you claimed pupils at your school were 'punched' by the teachers, Silverfish - not quite the same as the ruler-smacking, finger poking and blackboard rubber throwing that most of us had to contend with!