Where do we go from here re DD3 and the Idiot!

Agus we're dealing with a very similar situation. Dd is away from him and settled but of course we still have to see him. It gets difficult when the 4 year-old asked if I like Daddy and I replied, fingers crossed, that of course I like him because he is their Daddy ( best answer I can muster). He then replied 'That's funny cos Daddy doesn't like you'.
I reassured him by saying that it really didn't matter as the most important thing is that everyone loves him and his sister. Seemed to take that ok!
Horrible when children are used this way - planting the message in his little head, knowing that in his open, honest way he would pass it on!
Kitty I believe you're at the worst stage now. The light will dawn, they'll separate, you'll be there for her and life will return to reasonable. I sincerely hope that it's SOON!

If it means my house will be tidy then so do I mcem.

I'll just be glad if we can use the dining table by C*******s as, at the last count, it looks like we will be 14 for lunch! Oh, and I'll also be glad if the Idiot doesn't come that day as he has a large mouth with a big voice!!

Words fail me when people use innocent children to vent their dislike in this way. Fortunately in our situation, for GD's sake anyway, their Daddy adores them and they him but sadly all too late I'm sure he realises he has robbed them of a life with Mummy and Daddy and family life together.

I have managed to forge a, albeit false, friendly relationship with him for GD's sake as I would not want the girls or him to sense any animosity for fear he could do what your ex SIL is doing to your GC.

Fortunately for your DGC they have a loving Granny to,protect them with the right responses and lovingly dispel any worries in their little heads.

That's all we can do mcem love them and let them know they can talk freely to Granny about anything. As it's two GDs I have, natural chatterboxes anyway, they don't need much persuasion

Kitty I have been dealing with a very similar situation with our DD3 for the last 5 years! 2 little boys involved, the youngest of which(4) is besotted with his dad. The idiot first left DD when she was 6 mths pregnant with the little one and changed his phone no. Went back to mummy.
Since then he has come and gone on a frequent basis. Continually verbally abuses her by text calling her awful names. He has been back for a year now but the relationship is wobbling again with another bout of verbal abuse. It is always her fault of course. DH and I just never know how to treat him! Have to stay civil as we often facilitate visitation. And DD has often been very wobbly, trying to work full time and look after the little ones in the face of all this.
I think DD has become much stronger now and talking finishing the marriage for good. IMO should have done this when he first left.
It is emotionally exhausting, isn't it? I have had to work hard at holding DD and myself together for so long I am drained. Wish it was all sorted out for good. Our main focus is of course the little boys who are so vulnerable. They need to see their dad but when the 7 year old came out with 'you're a f--king bad wife Mum' I knew the writing was on the wall! Talk about planting horrible messages in little heads!

It is so hard to see your own child suffering and be unable to stop it! ((Hugs)) to all other Gnetters going through this. It helps to vent!!

You wonder about the mother of a bloke like your SIL, Judthepud. She should kick his
arse backside and tell him to grow up.