I think it's sad too jingl, although I had the same experience unfortunately. Present at the birth (by DD's request and very unexpected) then asked to stay away until invited. DD had wanted to see me every day towards the end of her pregnancy so this was definitely not consistent with our usual relationship. Completely the other way around when I had my own - I didn't want my mum anywhere near the birth but couldn't wait to see her afterwards, and welcomed lots of visitors in the day or two following (even though with DD I was recovering from a rather dramatic haemmorage). I was desperate to show off my beautiful babies.
It just seems to be the modern way, and we have to go with it I'm afraid. I agree with others that there's no point in showing your feelings as this will only breed resentment at what should be a happy time. You have years of grandparenting to look forward to, but it doesn't alter the fact that this can be a hurtful experience.
Scottish political mess. Is Devolution working?