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Relationships - Are they worth it in the end

(58 Posts)
Grannyknot Mon 06-Apr-15 20:51:59

Relationships are the most challenging, complex, fascinating, interesting things. I wouldn't have missed experiencing every relationship I've ever had, warts, wonder and all.

J52 Mon 06-Apr-15 20:32:59

Interaction with others, especially close family does involve ups and downs, as does life in general. I could not imagine life without my much loved DH, DSs and their families. x

granjura Mon 06-Apr-15 20:20:07

So true, same here.

kittylester Mon 06-Apr-15 20:12:11

I agree with Marelli. Lots of worry, pain and difficulties with families, but I'd rather cope with that than cope without them at all!

Ariadne Mon 06-Apr-15 20:10:02

I cannot imagine life without my family.

Marelli Mon 06-Apr-15 20:06:06

No....can't agree there, Parcs. Many families may be in 'turmoil' as you describe it, and I've experienced really serious problems myself with my own family, which I won't go into again on GN, though many of the original members know about it and were really very supportive at the time.
I would never, ever not wanted to have had the children that I've had. Even if it's meant turmoil in my life.

Ana Mon 06-Apr-15 20:04:24

I do think that some people, of either sex, are natural loners who sometimes find close relationships problematical, but there are a lot more who need partners, family and friends to feel a sense of belonging.

I don't know whether the latter type would ever feel happy or content beng on their own.

Parcs Mon 06-Apr-15 19:58:46

Lately I have felt that relationships with either children or OH/DH really are more trouble and bring more sadness than happiness.

After reading lots of posts on Gransnet I have found that there are many families in turmoil.

I know it is not a notion that one would think of, but I really do feel that sometimes we are better off on our own, peace, tranquillity, freedom to live your life your way and having not to please anyone Blissss