Petallus When I leant my children money they were either students or in hourly paid waitress and barmen jobs. Now they have decent jobs and homes I would not expect them to come for me a loan, except in very exceptional circumstances, and such circumstances have never arisen. I would expect them to take out commercial loans like anybody else.
The loans, when they were made, were always small amounts; a couple of hundred pounds at most and the repayments would be low, £5.00 a week. It is sad but true that it is far more important to learn to live within your means when your income is low and you are struggling than when your income is larger. Get in debt when on a small income and you are on the path to pay day loans, and loan sharks and escalating and unmanageable debt. Get in debt when your income is higher, you can use credit cards, overdrafts and bank loans and when you take out such debt , you are usually confident you can repay the debts. Those on small incomes aren't.
Having seen the effect of parents handing out money whenever requested; elderly people with substantial occupational pensions living in poverty because most of their pension is used up servicing their children's loans while their financially irresponsible children keep spending and expecting their parents to pay.
Giving children money whenever they need it can be a form of child cruelty.
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