DILFH? Yes I do. It has been a long 10 years of bullying and excluding me from their lives, and now that her children from a previous relationship are grown. They are now trying to be nice and inclusive.
My son has 2 children from a previous relationship. (her best friend) and 2 with her. Every time I use to allow the X to bring her children over, their was conflict.
I was never invited to any functions, holidays, or get together's but if the X invited me she had my son curse me out for going.
I started school in 2007 and began getting the grandchildren by the X gifts. There was no communication with son or his wife at the time yet, she accused me of causing a wedge between the children. Their children I had not seen since the first was born and didn't even know the second was conceived and 3yrs at the time of messege of causing a wedge.
My son lives the next main street over and when he and his family went to visit relatives for a family reunion they gave my sister who lives three hours away a picture of the new baby to give to me who at the time I didn't know they had. It seems was just too embarrass me.
When they got married. I was not invited to the wedding and only get calls for children's birthday's and Christmas for gifts.
The last straw was, I had invited my son and his family to my daughter's cheer/football games all season. He said they could not come didn't have the means. I waited to the last game because of their conflicts to invite my other grandchildren by the X, at the game the wife started texting her and went nuts because I was there. they later called to curse me out for not inviting them because again I was accused of trying to cause a wedge since the X and her, had made up and were friends again. (Something I never knew). they only come around if they have invited my twin daughters to a function or holiday.
I was outdone, hurt, and fed up. for 2 years I refuse to talk to them all, as well as, see any of my grands. When my daughters were going to prom she decided to buy them dresses and shoes. I thanked her and now they are trying to be nice. So much has happened, I could write a book of the disrespect.
Just so you know I keep to my self and have never even visited them since her first by my son was 2 months old. I only let the X start coming over because the wife curse me out for letting her visit my mom over my house, who had just gotten out of the hospital, in the heat of their craziness, after that I became attached to my grands and let them come often. because of that It has been 10 years of wife and X craziness. My son included cursing me out whenever the wife feels I have been disloyal for talking to the X. It's one big mess still to this day. except I now steer clear.
But I just recently got out of the hospital and now my son comes over, has started calling, trying to bring the children over and invited me to youngest birthday party. but I don't want them or their drama in my life. I feel so strong about that yet, I don't want to be unforgiving. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions!