as other posts. I find the best ways is to say as little as possible, as my mum says "the least said the soonest mended" some families thrive on dramas and arguments, this is a way of life for them, if things are ticking along nicely their not happy so have to "develop" a row or argument.
I am good at keeping mouth zipped (it comes with a h*ll of practice) in fact I have got certificates for Tongue Holding !
Talking about milfh my dds husbands mother could well come under that category, only last week there was one of the usual rows that included dd, sil,and dds mother inlaw, which included her calling my!! elder GS whos 8 a f****ing ponce!! this is as he stood there in the same room!! she reckons she didn't know he was there, he put his fingers in his ears! she called him this because my dd has brought GS up more or less on her own and had made a dam good job of it, with my help, she then went on to say that I (that's me)should get up and get a job (as some of you may know I am still on bereavement) and I should stop wiping dd a*se! throughout all this I was able to keep calm and not say a word, I feel the better person for it, whist she! admitted a few days after that she was a "little harsh"!!! so yes, the least said, the better person you are .Rise above it.