Let me first say that I have changed my username to Luckygirl, and many of you will realise that this is something of a joke, given my previous name, and will be able to use that hint to work out who I am.
But seriously - my poor DD and her OH are in a terrible dilemma. My DD rang me yesterday in a very tearful state to tell me that her children were being babysat by her in-laws and when she returned FIL (who is not an easy character - this is an understatement) was playing a very rough game with one of her sons, aged 3. The little lad was being teased and goaded, and eventually hit his FIL, who responded by walloping him hard 4 times on the bum. My DD just swept the child up and took him from the room. Needless to say we are all very distressed by this.
DD's OH is away at present and will be for most of the summer (although DD and children will join him for brief periods during that time). FIL is integral to the business they run, so the possibility of just giving him hell is not an option. They are also aware that if they say anything about it, he is such a stubborn man that he would just fold the business and cut off all communication. Their livelihood would be at risk.
SIL is livid and very distressed - he is away from his family and DD is in fact ill - I have just returned from taking care of her. It is a dreadful muddle and I am beyond knowing how to respond. I am just giving DD and her children as much support and love as I can.
What do others feel about FIL's action? I am so angry and upset that I not sure I can look at this in a rational way.
Luckygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 20:56:29
downtoearth Wed 01-Jul-15 21:05:49
vampirequeen Wed 01-Jul-15 21:06:21
grrrranny Wed 01-Jul-15 21:09:10
Luckygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 21:12:46
downtoearth Wed 01-Jul-15 21:13:42
Luckygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 21:13:56
rosesarered Wed 01-Jul-15 21:14:48
jinglbellsfrocks Wed 01-Jul-15 21:16:20
petallus Wed 01-Jul-15 21:17:06
jinglbellsfrocks Wed 01-Jul-15 21:18:16
vampirequeen Wed 01-Jul-15 21:19:19
downtoearth Wed 01-Jul-15 21:20:25
Judthepud2 Wed 01-Jul-15 21:21:16
Ana Wed 01-Jul-15 21:22:12
Jane10 Wed 01-Jul-15 21:28:17
rosesarered Wed 01-Jul-15 21:30:10
Luckygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 21:30:35
J52 Wed 01-Jul-15 21:33:40
Jane10 Wed 01-Jul-15 21:38:21
Charleygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 21:44:12
POGS Wed 01-Jul-15 21:46:04
Luckygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 21:49:50
Jane10 Wed 01-Jul-15 21:59:34
Luckygirl Wed 01-Jul-15 22:08:40