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TriciaF Thu 29-Oct-15 18:38:13

Our neighbour is probably dying of a gangrenous condition of his foot.
One of our farmer neighbours, who we're very fond of, has recently had to have half his foot amputated because of diabetic gangrene. He wanted to come home after the operation.
Now the operation isn't healing, an infection has set in and he has to return to hospital. He's 85, worked hard all his life, a lovely man with a great sense of humour.
I went to see them today and he looks really awful.
His wife is tired out, she's been very kind to us, and I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to make it easier for her.
I did take a home-made cake.
They have a son and family nearby but they're busy taking over the work of the farm.

Luckygirl Thu 29-Oct-15 18:45:16

How fit is his wife? Can you offer her lifts to the hospital? - or meals when she gets back?

tanith Thu 29-Oct-15 18:45:42

Maybe you could offer to ferry her backwards and forwards to the hospital to visit her husband, saving her the drive or freeing up family to concentrate on the farm.

TriciaF Fri 30-Oct-15 12:11:25

Yes that's a good idea, I'll offer. But she seems completely exhausted at the moment. She's about my age.
The hospital wanted him to go into a convalescent home for a few weeks, but he refused, wanted to be at home.
I'll try to pop in more often and try to cheer her up as well.

TriciaF Fri 30-Oct-15 12:12:40

And meals too, (but not leftovers wink)

AgathaBiscuit Fri 30-Oct-15 14:57:41

How sad, any chance they would consider a home carer? The poor woman must be exhausted. It's lovely to hear you're such a helpful, caring neighbour smile

TriciaF Wed 04-Nov-15 16:31:45

Thanks Agatha, you would be the same. I hope they do apply for a home carer - I called in today and found he's having another operation.
Diabetes is a dreadful disease. Poor P. (wife) isn't well either, and I think the family has gone to the hospital this pm. I took a cold meat salad meal round and left it on the table.
Fingers crossed he survives the operation.