We do receive presents from our adult DCG's, and I always ask them now, what they would like me to get them, rather than buy indiscriminately. The problem I now have is that my eldest DD separated from her DH 18 months ago. DGD (15) remained with her father. Her birthday is 4 days before Xmas, so I sent her vouchers for that, and different vouchers for Xmas, inside cards. I've had no contact with her since the separation, and no thank you of any kind. She did really well in her exams so I sent her a text congratulating her. She responded in a short text, saying she was surprised she did so well. That's the only contact I've had -apart from trying to speak to her in the street over a year ago, which wasn't exactly productive .
I don't know what to do now, about Xmas and her birthday.... DH says I should ignore it, but then, he's very 'bah-humbug', anyway.