Speaking as an aspirational working class 'girl' who made it into the middle class and was very grateful to reach a world of education, culture, manners, standards and privilege I would say that writing thank you notes is middle class 'law'. Manners are about forgetting selfishness and a 'me first' culture and about making others feel at ease and worthwhile. Making children write thank you notes is to remind them to be grateful to others and that nice things are not a right but a blessing. Middle class mores are also an adult conspiracy to raise a polite and appreciative generation. Many youngsters are narcissistic, 'entitled', rude and thankless because their parents do not instill a sense of the rights of others.
If a child grows up resenting the fact that they were asked to write to say thank you for what they were given it rather suggests that the deed (of writing) was enforced without the purpose being likewise imparted. Children should know that they are not owed anything by anyone other than their parents, that they are immensely fortunate to live in a free and prosperous country and that others elsewhere in the world, and the country for that matter, are not so lucky.
It is also good for children to have to do things they might not like. It is a good preparation for later life where reality sinks in that they are not the centre of the universe.
If a child does not write a thank you note and then fails to receive another gift from that donor it is a good lesson. It will be harsh for the same child when an adult to learn they cannot have a job or something equally essential because they are rude and unemployable. Better the smaller disappointment when they are young than a catastrophe when older.
I realise that this is a bit harsh and also that it paints my working class upbringing as of a poor standard which simply isn't true. My mother always made me say thank you.
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