I am feeling so upset and tearful at the moment.
DD2has one little granddaughter aged 2 1/2 ; DD1 is expecting her first baby in early June. DD1 has asked me to source cheap and second hand stuff for them for their baby which I've really enjoyed doing. I've joined various local online groups of mums who sell their toys and things cheaply and today bought a beautiful wooden workbench for DGD who loves tools and helping daddy with DIY. Thought it'd be a lovely 3rd birthday present. Yes, I KNOW I should have asked DD2 first before I bought it, but I didn't, and I didn't want the toolbench to go. It was a risk, and...well, when I sent DD2 photos of it, she went up the wall and said I was undermining their wishes and 'swamping' DGD with presents (I buy the odd book from charity shops for her). They have a small house so I totally understand where they're coming from, but for Christmas DD2 bought DGD a tent/castle which takes up loads of space....and I've been forbidden to buy anything. I feel really hurt that DD2 has reacted in this way and said I am undermining them when I didn't intend to give it to DGD before her birthday anyway. I suggested we keep it at ours and she can borrow it now and then for a few days, but DD2 was still angry.
I know there's no 'solution' as such: I have to abide by their rules, I KNOW that, and it was my own fault. I just wanted to vent a bit; I feel upset and hurt, and wonder if anyone else has experienced anything similar and how they dealt with it?
Advice and comfort welcome....I've had enough bollocking from DD2 and DH already!
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