Hi Rowantree
I don't mind disclosing that I qualified in social work. During my career, I did get the opportunity to train and work therapeutically with children, young people and adults. Some of the parents (and grandparents) that I met during the course of my career, faced very similar situations to the one you described. I will never forget how tough it was for some of those parents, but also how resilient and caring they were against the odds.
Hello to you too Imperfect27
I am left with little doubt that reaching out for advice and support from others can of itself be therapeutic. Ultimately, it is the parent or grandparent who has to face the situation in the real world and that can be lonely and as you say lead to self-doubt and loss of confidence.
But, you know what? Most of the time, most of us do a more than good enough job and can ease up on giving ourselves a hard time.
Son’s girlfriend diagnosed with BPD