Am I old fashioned with my opinios

I think emotional resilience would be useful in today's world of unkind social media comments/bullying than can go on (I am thinking of children) and also for being confident enough not to be persuaded into doing things that one does not want to.
I am another Spock reader. At least we didn't have many books to choose from. So much information around today that may be new mums are bewildered and do not trust their own feelings. How many feel guilty because they had a few drinks in early pregnancy? A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing - but maybe too much knowledge overwhelms us.

Why are our daughters so quick to feel our comments are critical when we are often just trying to help them.

Of course there's lots of nonsense thrown at younger today's parents, when commonsense and grasping the value of boundaries would do the job. BUT I wouldn't dismiss the importance of emotional resilience, while the concept may be new it's been around for years. It plays a part in explaining why some people emerge strong and able to live happy lives despite having lived through huge trauma, yet others may have suffered much less but remain more affected by their difficult experiences. Obviously personality etc play a part too

I don't know about 50 years ago but 36 years ago when my son was born there was plenty of information available. I'd much prefer that my own children looked at whatever the current research and information is and make up their own minds about how to bring up their children. I remember reading once that there were 3000 year old letters found in Ancient Egypt decrying the behaviour of young people. Older people have always tended to assume they know best and that "the youth of today" are going off the rails in some way. It's a tendency I fight against, even if i don't always succeed.

I don't agree that there is too much new-age nonsense about how to be parents. There is no harm in getting information and then deciding if it could be useful.

I can imagine my own mother making a similar comment to me, just as a fact (saying she didn't understand) and it wouldn't have upset me.
Seemingly, tho, your DD felt that she was being criticised, possibly because of your tone of voice or because you have made critical comments before?

My granddaughter is only 6 and is a confident tomboy, she's my daughters only child. My daughters does absolutely everything for her, to the extent she
tells her mum she is capable off doing it herself. Anya, i read the contents of the
seminar online earlier and you are correct I did learn something.But I still feel it's a mine field out there with all this so called advice on how to bring up your children. This information was not available 50 years ago and I feel
the older generation are a far more stable, grounded polite and able generation without any outside input.

And GN!!

I remember a very useful talk (seminar?) on "strong willed" (= stroppy/ resilient?) children when I was tearing my hair out over pre-teen DD1. I found it very reassuring, and I think being "emotionally resilient " is something I wish I had cultivated! She was a stroppy child at the time and wonders now at her strong willed children - I don't!
Seriously, if more people were "emotionally resilient" they might cope better with the shit challenges life throws at them.

I feel your use of the phrase 'new age nonsense' says a lot about your opinions. You have passed judgement on a seminar your daughter chose to attend, and might have done better to just listen and say nought. Who knows you might have learned something.

Resilience is the latest buzzword. It is applied to everything - the environment, emotions, organisations etc. This too will pass.

Not sure, I admit when a mother for the first time Dr Spock was bedtime reading