MIL was not a difficult MIL she was just very needy which suffocated me,especially as she was widowed,and my father died 6 weeks after the birth, and death of my first daughter so had my mum, and Mil to deal with,as well as a problematic younger brother,this continued for many years until MIL passed away,I couldn't cope with every ones needs as well as my own,and my own mothers behaviour was difficult,which suffocated me as well with her neediness,and supporting my brother as well..
I have no expectations, demands,just offer friendship and support,and also recognise that my son may one day be accepted into another family where hopefully he is loved as much as we love him.