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What can I do to get my husband to turn the heating on?

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GrandmaMoira Thu 26-May-16 21:14:48

Being cold can cause health problems, putting you at higher risk of heart and lung problems. Perhaps you could remind your husband of this. Does he want to risk you being ill? An unheated house is at risk of damp and mould as well. Is he just trying to save money or is he never cold? Most men seem to feel the cold less than women but most accept the heat being on when they are not cold. Can you not get him to compromise?

Elegran Thu 26-May-16 21:08:39

That is two good ideas from thatbags, but until you get round to them, then perhaps put on a couple of jumpers, a coat, hat, scarf, thick socks and gloves and fill a hot-water bottle, then sit in front of him shivering.

Tell him that you are not being a wimp, you are bloody ILL with more than one problem. I'd say he needs to be educated about just how cold can affect people - not him, obviously, he feels warm enough.

Decreased tolerance to cold is one of the symptoms of diabetes. Tell him this too. Maybe he doesn't know anything about diabetes and thinks it is all sorted out because you have the insulin? Your cancer treatment may have affected your sensitivity to cold as well.

Indinana Thu 26-May-16 21:03:52

And yes, definitely withdraw any services - cook only for yourself, just do your washing, not his, and so on.

Indinana Thu 26-May-16 21:01:41

What a very selfish man. I can't offer a solution I'm afraid, other than thatbags' suggestion of a heater for one room. Though I suspect he won't let you plug it in, if it's cost that drives his refusal to put the heating on.
Good luck.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 26-May-16 21:00:31

angry

That is so bad! Are you of an age to get heating allowance? He can't stop you using that. hmm

Do what Bags said. Get a man in to un-barricade the controls.

Marelli Thu 26-May-16 21:00:17

Don't do anything for him, then, dollyjo. If you can't leave him, for whatever reason, then withdraw your 'housewifely' services.

thatbags Thu 26-May-16 20:56:01

He sounds like a control freak. Difficult. What about calling a boiler man to come while dear hubby is out and unbarrackade the controls for you? You clearly need an unusual solution. Good luck.

Buy a small electric heater and heat one room just for you.

dollyjo Thu 26-May-16 20:50:51

I've been married to my husband for over 30yrs. He is very easy to live with ...except for one thing. He will not have the heating on and insists we don't need it and I am making fuss about nothing.
I am insulin dependent, I recently had a knee replacement and I have had cancer in the past.
I am so cold that I get cramp in my hands and feet and he tells me to put my coat on.
Don't suggest I should leave him - it's too late for that.
I just want to know if anyone else has got their spouse to change their ways.
Don't suggest, I should just turn the heating on myself because I can't, he has barrackaded the controls on the boiler so that I can't get to them.
He went out 5 hours ago and so I can't even beg him to put the heating on.