Dummy debate

I hate dummies with a passion, but both DGC and most of our foster GC have had them and I certainly don't think it is my place to deprive a baby of a dummy if it is used to it.

Good grief! She's brave.
Personally I don't like them,mine didn't have one,neither do GC.But if they needed one they probably would have been given one.

It may have been misconstrued when I said that the other gran has forbidden dummies. She has forbidden them in her house or out and about while DGD is with her but obviously when she goes home then Mum rules. Im always happy to go along with whatever my daughter says and I always ask permission to do anything out of the ordinary or to give DGD any foods that she may not have had before.
Other gran never asks she assumes she has the right to make her own rules where her grandchild is concerned. Not my business, I just get concerned that different rules may confuse
dgd

My daughter had a dummy and would settle happily for sleep with it. My son, however, didn't and wanted me all the time and a breast feed to get him off to sleep. Exhausting really.

I bought dummies when my ED was pregnant, just in case, but got told in no uncertain terms that the baby wasn't having a dummy. Oh well, more money wasted.

Our DGD uses a dummy (on advice from hospital when she was discharged) in bed and in the car, she takes it out whenever she gets up/out the car but knows exactly where she leaves it! I notice she sometimes ignores it in the car now though.

The plan is that her Xmas elf will take them all away, by which time she'll be newly 3.

I'm not keen on dummies really but it's better than thumb-sucking, and it's not up to me anyway!

Having just spent 3 weeks in the company of two of our grandsons, one aged 2 that has a dummy I can say I really do dislike them.

In my opinion they should be left in the bed/cot and only used in the bedtime routine or if the child is poorly.

My little grandson speaks poorly because he does so with a dummy in his mouth and talks round it. Sometimes he even seems to forget when it's not in his mouth and makes the same sounds. Yet a few hours without it and he speaks much more clearly.

My daughter knows how I feel about it, we're close and discuss this type of thing easily but whilst he is in her care it's her rules. She plans to start weaning him off his dummy now they are home. She freely agrees though, in my house, my rules and to be fair to the little chap he rarely asks for it when with me. We talk all the time and I encourage him to talk back.

DGD has hers when she's very tired, upset or in need of comfort for whatever reason. Not a problem. Parents rule.

I would just go with DD.

I don't really like to see toddlers out and about with a dummy. My 2 GS both had them, and went out with them, but obviously I never voiced an opinion - totally none of my business. The very idea of a GP forbidding one leaves me speechless . People have been cut off from their GC for less!

I don't like dummies but for some babies and in some circumstances they can quiet and calm a baby.
If they haven't found a thumb, a blanket edge, or something else to suck then a dummy may be the answer.
Just don't let them walk around and try to talk with a dummy in their mouth when they could have grown out of them.

Im happy to go along with what the parents want but the 'other gran' makes her own rules and DD tries to avoid conflict so pretends to go along with her

sorry but had to laugh 'arguing over a dummy'!!! ?

as others say its up to the parents...

Indeed! Parents choice every time.

Why is there an argument? It's up to the parents. Paternal gran should butt out! I don't like dummies, but my GS had one till a couple of months ago, for bed and when he was really upset, and it really helped to calm him. But - stop arguing, and do what the parents want.

I find that quiet shocking too Alea

Not her child therefore not her decision.
I did the same as child's mum. Mine happily gave theirs up even for sleeping at about 2 y.o.

Quite Alea!!

We didn't give any of ours a dummy but having had 2DGC with colic I say, whatever works, works!

Neither of mine or the GC have used dummies. They preferred their thumbs. DS sucked his until he was 8 years old, and then stopped himself.

"Paternal gran forbids........"!! ??

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