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Am I now Completely Mad ( longish post)

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grannylyn65 Fri 08-Jul-16 09:17:57

Some of you may know a bit about me!
Anyway, have lived alone for over 25 years, retired on State P, a small work one and have a wee job
Out of the pension pot I have bought DS one 2 holidays ) they both work hard and struggle.
My oldest son ( 44) has probably worked a month in his life, is highly intelligent and been given chances all his life. He looks like a tramp (apologies to tramps! ) and spends all his benefits on weed and now has no teeth but can't be bothered to sort it, over the years I have shelled out thousands to try to keep him out of trouble and when his benefits are stopped because he 'forgot to attend interview' He has been in prison twice in his teenage years.
Well, I don't drink ( 30 years sober !) smoke ( now ) I don't get out much! And I have a permanent stomach problem, so don't mention curry!!
So, I suddenly had a mini meltdown, thought f*
them all and have booked a 12 day tour in India, this will use quarter of my savings!
Have I finally lost it ? Should I cancel? I am very very apprehensive!
Lastly, I have holidayed abroad 3 times in 30 years!
I generally trust gn's wisdom!!

DaphneBroon Fri 08-Jul-16 16:49:30

Seriously, write a blog - we will be following avidly!

Liz46 Fri 08-Jul-16 17:01:51

To add to some previous advice, we always go to the nurse at our local surgery a couple of months before we go and she checks what injections are needed. We used to pay for a private prescription for malaria pills but find that a pharmacy can do this now. (We used Superdrug last time but I think Asda is doing it now too).
Don't forget to get a visa.

Elrel Fri 08-Jul-16 17:09:29

Have a wonderful time, we'll look forward to hearing about your well deserved holiday. A friend spent several weeks in India alone and loved it, put a complete lack of tummy troubles down to being vegetarian! As a poster says above also be wary of salads, and ice in drinks.

Fairydoll2030 Fri 08-Jul-16 17:22:12

Enjoy yourself but don't drink the local water and pack plenty of Immodium!!

NonnaW Fri 08-Jul-16 17:46:59

Go for it, have a wonderful time!

Badenkate Fri 08-Jul-16 18:53:00

Go for it girl - but make sure you take out travel insurance NOW. We booked a holiday to Jordan and Petra and 2 weeks before we left I developed AF and we couldn't go Unfortunately as usual I'd left it till the last minute to take out insurance and we got very little refund. So cover yourself and then enjoy it - I'd say you totally deserve it sunshine

grannylyn65 Fri 08-Jul-16 18:53:04

Am Overwhelmed by your lovely support, I am so not used to 'putting myself first' ! I have checked various insurances and one actually covers my condition which I was surprised at! I am going with Solo Holidays and there are 11 already booked, room for 5 more! The nice man at Solos has printed on ticket that I have a gastric pacemaker and can 't go through scanners!
I am nervous already and probably won't tell anyone just yet!! ?
So many thanks again, I have struggled on my own for so long; it is fantastic to have such support ???

Tresco Fri 08-Jul-16 19:01:19

When I went to India I was advised by someone who had lived there to drink lime soda - freshly squeezed lime juice with soda water, with either sugar or salt added (salt because of the heat and sweating) It's very refreshing and good for preventing stomach upsets, as lime juice is anti-bacterial to some degree. I had a great time, no stomach upsets at all and I enjoyed the food, which was spiced but not "hot". You'll have a great time.

Lyndylou Fri 08-Jul-16 20:34:23

I'd never planned to go to India, but complex reasons meant my daughter got married out there and I joined them for a week. We managed to get in a trip to the Taj, it was well worth it. I thoroughly enjoyed it, so go for it. I came back with a dodgy stomach for several weeks but I have been told it may well have been the milk in tea in the cheapish hotel we were in. My daughter came back pregnant with my grandson, but I don't think that is compulsory!

I hope you have a wonderful time.

Crafting Fri 08-Jul-16 21:26:44

Have a wonderful time. You deserve it smile

fiorentina51 Fri 08-Jul-16 21:49:25

What a wonderful idea. Go and enjoy a well earned holiday! ??

elfies Fri 08-Jul-16 21:54:55

Go Girl xx

Deedaa Fri 08-Jul-16 22:48:11

Once in a lifetime! Have a wonderful holiday smile

belladonna Fri 08-Jul-16 23:21:22

Can I come with you ???

belladonna Fri 08-Jul-16 23:22:59

Can I come with you ?

Bellanonna Fri 08-Jul-16 23:44:30

That wasn't me! I'd find it a bit hot. Belladonna I sometimes see your posts and think, I don't remember writing thst!

Eloethan Fri 08-Jul-16 23:54:53

I hope you have a lovely holiday.

Judthepud2 Sat 09-Jul-16 01:10:51

Oh how I would love to be going too! Not possible for me due to complex family demands but you must go and have the trip of a lifetime! Enjoy!

rubylady Sat 09-Jul-16 03:03:03

Do it with bells on! Get out there now and get your wardrobe together, get excited, pack, enjoy and don't look back. You have done your job, now it is your turn to have some freedom.

Get some probiotics and take them for a while before you go, they might settle your tummy a bit, the tablet form, not the drinks.

Have fun. flowers

rubylady Sat 09-Jul-16 03:06:49

On a very pared down version, I have booked into a lovely hotel for 3 nights for when I take my son to University. I will enjoy the mini bar if I feel like it, have room service and take advantage of anything else that will be luxurious. I have deserved it.

I too wish I could go to India, but illness keeps me in this country along with my beloved doggie. But it sounds idyllic, I'm well jel! grin

absent Sat 09-Jul-16 03:50:20

Bon voyage!

NfkDumpling Sat 09-Jul-16 07:24:51

On caravan and camping sites we often meet single retired people touring in small motor homes with their dog for company (sometimes a cat). With a pet passport they can get quite a long way - although probably very few make it to India!

vampirequeen Sat 09-Jul-16 08:55:03

When are you going. Then we can do a countdown with you x

Newquay Sat 09-Jul-16 09:05:13

Good for you-go for it?
Life's too short and all that!

Bellanonna Sat 09-Jul-16 11:59:44

And you too, ruby. I love your positivity. I KNOW you will enjoy your stay. Think they might be kept busy stocking up the minibar?.