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Of course you are forgiven . Thank you BlueBelle

So sorry Gillybob I didn't mean you at all I m afraid when my iPad picks up one name I ve used before it changes it for me without me realising

Please accept my apologise the others are right I was meaning to address original post so sorry to have upset you hope I m forgiven

Probably DaphneBroon and annsixty but the last paragraph of BlueBelles post is very nasty and I find it quite hurtful to have it addressed to me.

I think you were mistaken for OP Gilly

Did you mean grannypiper (OP) rather than gillybob, blue belle?

I beg your pardon BlueBelle I think you should take some time and actually read my comments. I have said no such thing. Nasty .

Most people for and against have made valid points
It's over generalisation that is at fault here Some single Mums play the system Some wayward Dads play the system many single mums are good people who are struggling It puts everyone's backs up when people are all lumped together
Gillybob the rant about this particular young lady who you know nothing about except what the paper has told you ( revved up to get people hot under the collar and full of anger and hatred and buying more papers to read the 'truth') has put some people s backs up because you have implied ALL young single mums get the earth nowadays, unfortunately you have fallen into the deadly media trap and are trying to take everyone else with you
Calm down having steam coming out your ears isn't good for you Accept there are those that do and those that don't and if you still have that steam, tackle the source not the mass who you know diddly squirt about

I think a few of us also picked that up,*autumnissad*, it may be a case of predictive text from an over-assiduous keyboard!!
You should see some of the things mine comes up with!

This is my first post and apologise for being pedantic, Grannypiper. When you said, "these people are being incredulous", did you mean that they're being incredible? Sorry again, from a pedant.

The pill was definitely out when I go myself pregnant in 1979 (aged 17) but I wouldn't have been able to get it anyway. My parents would never have agreed (in fact they would have went crazy at the thought of it) and I had a VERY old fashioned family doctor of whom I was terrified and who would have told them anyway had I approached him alone.

42% of marriages end in divorce, and I believe the figure is even higher for people in relationships who are not married.

Many of these relationships involve children and so there are many parents who are single-handedly caring for their children. They are mostly mums and so they get all the flak but, as someone else said, what about the dads, some of whom are very reluctant to contribute towards the upkeep of their children?

A feature in a newspaper doesn't really tell us anything about this young woman's day-to-day life. It seems to me that the original post makes certain assumptions and jumps to certain conclusions ("the usual sad face", "these young girls") which could be argued as being a reflection of the poster's own mindset and prejudices.

I think parents should be responsible and care for their own children, as far as they are able. But I also think sometimes support is needed and many of us have needed or will need support at various stages of our lives so we should not deny it to others - and what could be more important than trying to ensure that children are cared for?

Why are so many people so resentful these days - and often of people who really have very little to be resentful of?

Your point is?

I'm sure, if I remember right, the birth control pill came out in 1962. I remember, People were saying what as actually happened, that the single mother will become common. Don't you agree ?

Phrases. ye gods (and little fishes)! used to express mock-heroic indignation. a feast, sight, etc. (fit) for the gods: said of something delightful or amazing

As mcem says, "mountains, molehills" , neither here nor there really.

I will have what Gilly's having please

I'm with DB on this one- different words, different meanings - not just alternative spelling.
Mountains and molehills?

Oh I wonder what is "yes, yes, yes, yes, yesssssss, yessssssss, yessssssss"

I can remember it from somewhere but have totally forgot.

Not sure where you are coming from on this Anya
Admittedly the usage of both is archaic, but
"ye"= you (plural)
"Yea" = yes

A little learning is truly a dangerous thing Daphne ....other spellings are quite acceptable!

As usual, the criticisms are mostly aimed towards the single mum. What about the dad? Where is he? At least mum is doing her best for her children. How is she supposed to 'contribute' to society with a four year old and a baby to look after? I'm 62 now, but I remember very well what a struggle it was,as a young single mum having left an abusive relationship, to manage on benefits with three children under 7. I think age should bring a bit more compassion and less judgement.

As usual, the criticisms are mostly aimed towards the single mum. What about the dad? Where is he? At least mum is doing her best for her children. How is she supposed to 'contribute' to society with a four year old and a baby to look after? I'm 62 now, but I remember very well what a struggle it was,as a young single mum having left an abusive relationship, to manage on benefits with three children under 7. I think age should bring a bit more compassion and less judgement.

Well said Barmyoldbat. Many single Mothers who choose to have a child do so not for benefits , they want a home and a family , many have not known the security of these

Good for you Ruth that you believe its your responsibility to provide for your children, as I did BUT there are times when you need help and support and if you are unlucky in having no family support where do you go? What about these poor kids brought up in care, most of them just want a family and to feel loved. Ana, I had a job in marketing that involved reading every paper every day and the one I hated the most was The Star.

Stranded by men! I think that's a really ridiculous comment these day..... a great many women (not all) want to have a baby without a man.