It's not just driving with me, morethan. Since giving up work a year ago my confidence has dropped in most areas of day to day life. I think you have hit the nail on the head by saying it's best not to avoid scary things, set some goals but don't make them too huge. Nothing will be achieved if we set ourselves up to fail! So if I feel under the weather (like now) I reduce my aim accordingly. I try to build up to anything that feels huge with small steps. I know it helps if I remind myself of what has worked well and, without self blame, consider what would have helped if something doesn't quite work out. I have begun to keep a little notebook where I jot down a couple of things each day that I am pleased with. Nothing huge usually but something to help when I have an 'I can't do it' day. I'm getting back some belief that I can do things, most of the time the reality is nowhere as bad as I feared, I am so pleased that I worked out what was happening and didn't just opt out of anything challenging. You sound as if you have a really good approach, so be pleased about that. I'm sure others will have helpful thoughts, for me too. I know you will get there, dont worry, it isn't just you.
