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Caramac Fri 30-Dec-16 08:55:28

Hello All
My resolution for 2017 is to do more of what I want. I have never been abroad and although my husband travelled a lot before we met, he no longer seems interested and always has an excuse as to why we can't go.
I am thinking of an organised trip alone where there are some excursions as I want to do more than just read by a pool, happy to do that some of the time
I do have some specific dietary needs but not difficult to meet
Any suggestions as to travel companies and destinations.
Thanks all and Happy New Year smile

lizzypopbottle Sat 31-Dec-16 13:26:02

It's not me sarahelen, it's Public Health England. My post was tongue in cheek. Read the link and you'll see that over 65s, as a group, are apparently as vulnerable, when venturing outside in cold weather, as those with long term illness or mobility issues.

Nelliemoser Sat 31-Dec-16 14:27:03

You have mentioned all of the ones I would have.
I generally do an HF holiday on my own. (Not too much walking these days as my joints are are complaining.)

They have a huge range of activity holidays. Have a really good look at their brochures. As I have said before on GN the friendly atmosphere this organisation promotes makes it really easy to go as a single.

I also usually do a Geology trip with an established group and as OH is not interested in that at all and tends to want to do his own thing.

Neversaydie Sat 31-Dec-16 14:27:59

I have a similar problem .We have done a lot of travelling including long haul since we retired. DH seems to have lost the taste for it (some anxiety issues which I think are the reason)
He encouragrd me to go on a long haul holiday to Japan with younger DD this autumn .We organised it ourselves and stayed in far simpler accommodation ,ate more cheaply ,than he and I would have done.Worked out at at least £1500 each cheaper and we saw things we would never have seen on a tour Was fabulous (though travelling with someone 40 years younger was tiring ).I am going to Cuba in March with DDl for 3 weeks in March Very basic though organised tour.
I don't think he expected me to actually do it and mixed me rather more than he thought he would
There is another destination still high on my bucket list If he wont come I will go on a singles holiday .I have heard good reports of Just You and am told that there are often'attached' people on their holidays .As there are on Explore ,Exodus and Intrepid holidays all of which we have used. DH and I are always hapy to 'befriend'(hope that doesnt sound condescending)anyone travelling alone .Still friends with someone we met in Crete in 1981...

Neversaydie Sat 31-Dec-16 14:28:56

Whoops..'missed me'

NemosMum Sat 31-Dec-16 14:54:08

Caramac, I am sorry to see your latest post. You really must call your DH out and go on your own. Best of luck, and let us know how it goes!

annifrance Sat 31-Dec-16 15:24:50

A friend of mine regularly does Saga cruises which she thinks are wonderful. As for dinner arrange ments they are placed on round tables of ten, so you always have company, but not necessarily with all the same people. Good luck and enjoy, his reasons for not going on holiday with you sound like excuses to me!

Stansgran Sat 31-Dec-16 17:23:43

I do understand a sense of responsibility for a fellow traveller. DH is always in charge but. Find he expects me to notice if he has left his camera / rucksack/ pills behind. Maybe your not so DH feels that he is responsible for your health etc. I went with a friend on one of these city breaks and she mislaid her passport frequently and once through passport control blamed me. You just have to show him that you can manage.

ElaineRI55 Sat 31-Dec-16 17:39:09

It sounds like there are lots of options available, so hopefully you'll find something suitable and have a great time. It will probably be even better if you can ensure you're doing it for positive reasons now,choose something you'll really enjoy and don't go with unresolved hurt between you and your D(or otherwise)H. You will no doubt come back with practical experiences/solutions which will address his reservations/concerns ( which could actually have been based on not-very-well expressed concerns for your comfort & safety). All the best for a great holiday wherever you decide to go and for many more - perhaps with a willing, happy DH in tow!

1974cookie Sat 31-Dec-16 17:53:39

Dear Caramac.

You go for it Girl ??⛴ ? ✈️
Make 2017 the Year that you do what you have long dreamed of doing.
Never put off until tomorrow, what you can do today !!
There may not be a tomorrow.
Don't forget to post your adventures on Gransnet smile

granh1 Sat 31-Dec-16 18:53:39

Have you a special interest? I like birds watching, but mu husband doesn't. I have been with Speyside wildlife and found them very friendly. There are lots of special interest holidays out there, art, photography, literature. walking, bridge and a joint interest is a real ice breaker. If you are active, try Explore, I went with them last year on a wildlife adventure holiday - excellent!.
Be brave and try - it will be worth it!

Jayanna9040 Sat 31-Dec-16 19:09:50

granh1, Explore are my favourites. Glad you enjoyed your trip with them?

ajanela Sat 31-Dec-16 19:15:09

I went on a HF holiday on my own and we all sat together on round tables. A holiday involving a hobby with HF would be good.
Not sure where you live but practice with a coach trip with an over night stay, maybe a London theatre visit. Or a day trip to somewhere you want to see without your husband.

Caretaker Sat 31-Dec-16 22:07:33

We were on a Fred Olsen cruise ship in June and talking to a farmer who was on the holiday alone he told us he and his wife work together 50 weeks of the year but always have two weeks holiday doing their own thing. He loves cruising holidays and his wife loves hiking holidays.

Shanma Sat 31-Dec-16 22:22:45

My new years resolution is to not bother with GN anymore. The few days I didn't log in as I had too much going on was actually calming to me. Reading all this rubbish on here, People pretending they actually give a stuff about others whom they do not even know makes me feel sick to my stomach.
The way they say someone is a LOVELY Lady if this so called lovely person just happens to agree with them. Whingeing and wining, and dirty linen washed in public over and over again, and folks getting their knickers in a twist if someone puts an apostrophe in the wrong place, or God forbid happens to disagree with one of the clique.
As for the person who started this, and Mumsnet too, a medal?? for what? for coming up with a great money making idea and laughing all the way to the bank.
Well I suspect if I logged onto GN at any given time during the coming years that I would see the same old twaddle as I have seen so far, written by the same old posters. Get a life and stop thinking that the people who post on here are your Friends.They are not.

Lovey Sat 31-Dec-16 23:11:03

Viking River Cruises are nice.

Barmyoldbat Sun 01-Jan-17 08:45:54

Caramac, my present husband and I lived together for a great many years never had a long holiday together as we both wanted to go to different countries (we got married the year we both decided to go to the same place!). Anyway, I was into walking and went with Explore and Exodus. They do some very lvery low grade walks if that is what you need and believe me it was quite suitable for a lone woman. Good luck.

Barmyoldbat Sun 01-Jan-17 08:50:05

Shanma all I can say is that you have either got out of bed the wrong side this morning or you are a lone, sad, anti social person. To be quite honest I have seen some of your postings and I find you lacking in compassion and will not miss you. To the rest of you long may gn continue so we have the the odd rant. Happy New Year everyone

Jane10 Sun 01-Jan-17 09:43:38

I thought Shanma had flounced ages ago. Whatever.

Anya Sun 01-Jan-17 09:56:16

Last time Elegran and I were the subject of her angst. Now it's everyone on GN grin

Just being a Grumpy Old Woman perhaps? Though there was a mysterious letter that was Doom and Gloom if my memory serves me correct.

DaphneBroon Sun 01-Jan-17 10:14:04

Quite why Shanma's latest rant is on this thread is a mystery to me, but clearly something needed venting (spleen?)
Ah well, I hope those who venture on holiday on their own for whatever reason, have a wonderful time and have a pic or two to show afterwards ??

Jayanna9040 Sun 01-Jan-17 10:23:44

Hah. Family have limited me to 50 pictures on any one travel. Try not to bore people by keeping it to twenty...........

Elegran Sun 01-Jan-17 11:08:24

Is Shamna hoping to be the first deleted post of 2017?

f77ms Sun 01-Jan-17 11:35:41

I think shanma meant to post on New years resolutions thread . Maybe a bit too much celebrating last night grin

Jayanna9040 Sun 01-Jan-17 11:36:26

Let me tell you about my Vietnam photos. There are lots of boats, there are lots of temples, there are lots of people on motorbikes ...llIm determined to keep this thread on track?

Granof11 Sun 01-Jan-17 12:48:27

I was pleased to find this thread; have holidayed alone many times, although somewhat constrained as to choice due to budget. However I'm definitely going to spend time exploring some of the websites mentioned. Happy New Year to all.